Let’s Debate — Determining Custody

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March 7, 2014

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Let’s Debate — Determining Custody
By Terry Kee, Member, Executive Committee, National Parents Organization of Ohio

Terry Kee
Terry Kee
Some people argue that determining custody is fairly simple — in their view, that parent who provided the primary care during the marriage should be awarded primary custody subsequent to divorce.

This argument recently surfaced in response to National Parents Organization’s founder and chair Ned Holstein’s interview on National Public Radio. An Indiana attorney who Blogs for Babble, a website sponsored by Disney wrote this:

“In Indiana, the judges will look at a series of factors in determining which parent should be the primary custodian of the children. What it basically boils down to is which parent has been acting as the primary custodian of the children? Which parent has been changing the kids’ diapers? Which parent helps the kids with their schoolwork? Which parent gets up in the morning and gets the kids off to school? Which parent spends the most time with the kids? Which parent does the kids’ laundry?”

Did you get that judges? The primary caregiver gets the primary custody. Done. Next case...

Now I’m not sure what century this guy is living in... but in this century women work outside of the home and men take care of children. Now what? He continues:

“When the father has been the parent who has been changing the diapers and helping the kids with their schoolwork, the court will award dad custody without hesitation.” Read more...

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I like the social science that relates to children’s well-being and the types of families they live in. It’s enormously instructive. It takes us out of individual cases that alone matter little to anyone not immediately involved in them. Social science gives us the big picture and should be used as a guide to public policy. Read more...

Shared Parenting in Nebraska Hits a Wall; We Need Your Help!
March 3, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
According to this article, despite everything we’ve learned over the past couple of months about child custody in Nebraska, Senator Russ Karpisek’s shared parenting bill, LB 1000, has hit a wall in the Senate Judiciary Committee (Omaha World Herald, 2/28/14). Read more...

Michele Hobbs and Amanda Broughton Jump Through Hoops to Be Parents to their Kids
March 3, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
I’ve read a fair amount on the subject of same-gender marriage and same-gender parenting. To be blunt, those who oppose either have utterly failed to make their cases. The simple truth is that marriage can only be strengthened if we allow all adults to do it. I understand that various biblical references cast marriage as the union of a man and a woman and frown on homosexuality. I also understand that homosexuality is every bit as much a part of human nature as heterosexuality and that the line between the two is far from bright. Read more...

New Mexico Children Youth and Families Dept. Head: No Change in Wake of Children’s Deaths
March 2 , 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
Just a quick update on the crisis in New Mexico over its failure to protect Omaree Varela, the nine-year-old boy who was kicked to death by his mother. As I’ve mentioned before, Omaree had come to the attention of the state’s Children, Youth and Families Department and/or police, at least three times prior to his death last December. Read more...

Gilbert Tso’s Case: For States, Child Support is All About the Money from Uncle Sam
February 28, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
Would you like to know just how dogged states are when it comes to collecting child support? Gilbert Tso’s story offers a good illustration of exactly that. In his case, an Illinois court that plainly has no jurisdiction of the case went ahead and issued a child support order anyway, plus hefty arrearages just so, if it collects anything from Tso, it can chalk it up as another “success” and get paid by the federal government’s Office of Child Support Enforcement. Read more...

Moore, Oklahoma Police Kill Man in Domestic Violence Incident Perpetrated by Wife
February 27, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
The teachings of the domestic violence industry were on display in Moore, Oklahoma Tuesday as this article shows (CNN, 2/27/14).

A family of three, Luis and Nair Rodriguez and their 19-year-old daughter went to a local theater to see a movie. Before they entered the theater, mother and daughter had an argument and Nair slapped the younger woman. Read more...

Oklahoma Senate Passes Bill Protecting Visitation Rights
February 27, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
The Oklahoma State Senate has passed a bill, SB 1612, that would put teeth into requirements that custodial parents who interfere with the visitation rights of non-custodial parents be punished. Read more...


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