One Parent Can Make a Difference

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June 13, 2014

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One Parent Can Make a Difference
By Christopher Howard, Chair, Executive Committee, National Parents Organization of New York

Chris Howard
Christopher Howard, Chair, Executive Committee, National Parents Organization of New York
Fathers’ Day has meant many different things to me over the years. I’ve spent the day in the company of my children and I’ve also spent it alone. But whether we’re together or apart, I am no less their father and they no less my children.  This I can be sure of.

On a shelf in my bedroom I keep on display all of the little gifts and cards my younger daughter has worked so hard to make for me since she was first able. Origami cranes, a clay turtle with its baby piggy-back and a figure fashioned from Scotch tape and Snapple caps are just a few of these. They are precious and irreplaceable, as is she along with her sister and brother.

Our children have never been my soldiers or my spies - or sounding boards for my anger and frustration despite court appearances and divorce proceedings that have dragged on for over fourteen years. Instead I chose to love them unconditionally in the only way I know, which, difficult as it was at times, meant using restraint so they could develop their own views and opinions.

Revamping the court system, educating our lawmakers both in the senate and the assembly regarding the virtues of shared parenting, and writing meaningful legislation are vitally important goals, but there is so much more. We can talk about change, lobby for reform and campaign for children’s rights, but the real revolution comes from within. One parent can make a difference in the life of one child by putting the needs of that child first. It’s that simple. Together we can make a difference in the lives of many.

As a child of divorce, a divorced father, and soon to be grandfather, I’ve witnessed the emotional carnage a contentious split can wreak on those around us. I believe what’s truly needed is a cultural shift. Idealistic as this may sound, a parent is a parent, no matter their gender, sexual orientation, social status or financial stability, and each has their own unique gifts to offer. Isn’t it about time we stopped blaming and started acting? Read more...

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Clear Channel Radio Show Features Shared Parenting

Ned Holstein, MD, MS, founder and chair, teams up with Massachusetts Representative Anne Gobi for interview on share parenting on WTAG radio, Worcester. Listen to the broadcast.

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Why the Connecticut Commission Is Split and Implications for Shared Parenting
June 10, 2014 by John M Clapp, Executive Committee Member, National Parents Organization of Connecticut; and Chair, Shared Parenting Council of Connecticut
The Connecticut Child Support Guidelines Commission has split on the issue of unreasonably high child support guidelines and its implications for parental involvement with their children. This split is particularly relevant in light of the Massachusetts shared parenting guidelines adopted in 2013. Massachusetts had data showing that a large percentage of couples agree to amounts far below Guidelines. This raises the issue of why any state adopts Guidelines that many consider unreasonable. Read more...

Nevada Dad Fighting Daughters’ Removal to Sweden
June 9, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
A Nevada dad, Shane Peterson is fighting a trial judge’s ruling allowing his ex-wife to move to Sweden with their two children. From where I sit, it looks like a losing battle. My guess is that, if he ever sees his kids again, it’ll be a miracle. Read about it here. (Las Vegas Review Journal, 6/7/14). Read more...

Karen DeCrow, Last NOW President to Support Shared Parenting, Dies
June 8, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
Karen DeCrow, former president of the National Organization for Women, died this past Friday in her hometown of Jamesville, New York. Her passing, and the New York Times obituary recalling Ms. DeCrow are noteworthy for roughly the same reason (New York Times, 6/7/14). Read more...

York County, PA Celebrates Fathers’ Day With Deadbeat Dad Message
June 6, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
It’s still nine days until Fathers’ Day, but that doesn’t mean it’s too early to start disrespecting dads. Every year it’s the same thing. On Mothers’ Day, no amount of praise is sufficient to honor mothers and, of course that’s pretty much in the spirit of the day itself. The whole idea of Mothers’ Day and Fathers’ Day is that we honor the men and women who care for our children. All year long we take their work for granted, so we reserve one day to give Moms and Dads a verbal high-five. Read more...

Oklahoma Expands Power to Enforce Visitation
June 5, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
The Oklahoma legislature has passed Senate Bill 1612 that would make enforcement of visitation orders easier for non-custodial parents. Unlike an earlier measure that would have helped non-custodial parents enforce their visitation orders, this one has been signed into law by the governor, as this article reports (Coweta American, 6/3/14). Read more...


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&“I am very proud to be part of the National Parents Organization, helping to make shared parenting a reality. Children should have equal access to both parents whenever possible. It makes their lives better, and it ensures a brighter future for everyone in this country. Equal rights for both parents, regardless of gender, is today’s most pressing social issue.”

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