This should be a warning to those marrying foreign women and to anyone marrying someone with vastly different educational and financial backgrounds. The wise expression 'the apple does not fall far from the tree' should be taken very seriously for its truth. Psychopaths come from families of psychopaths. Psychopathic behavior can be stopped by people with values and a basic understanding of what is moral and what is immoral but if families see crimes as criminal acts only when a person is caught and receives a punishment commensurate with the crime and not when the act itself is committed, you should run as fast as you can, regardless of losses which will only increase. I consider myself lucky to be alive today and not in prison and yet realize that can change at the whim of a woman more than 3,000 miles away, should she so desire. I do not blame her. I blame the judges, many of whom I believe applaud genius criminal behaviors and may even associate that with 'winners' who should be rewarded. It is the twisted, sick, anti-family minds of corrupted, incompetent and immoral judges that are destroying our society from within.
I thought I had married an Australian woman when I lived in Sydney. However, I could not see what friends and others who had met her immediately saw, which was that her primary motives were a green card and easy money. On reflection, she and her family many times openly "joked" about these desires as confident as they were in being able to pull this scam off and I buried my head in the sand, desperate to be married. Having never had any family myself, she and her family played upon that weakness and I chose to ignore the history of her family for pulling swindles, including her mother's four marriages, all of which she very proudly admitted she greatly enriched herself. Regular physical and emotional abuse occurred even before we were engaged, a major red flag. Being older with very little dating experience, I could not see how I was being conned.
Jacqui convinced me to move back with her to Sydney and demanded I send my life savings, a considerable seven-figure amount as I had done very well with stock options for tech companies I had worked for during the boom. This was alleged to buy a house for us to live. Since I was not even a temporary Australian citizen at that point, I did so. This was followed immediately by her demanding a very large engagement ring ($27K) which she mocked as a 'starter' and the physical and emotional abuse skyrocketed. I told her I was breaking off the engagement and she calmly informed me she would return not a dollar. Since I had nothing in writing that indicated my sending of funds was intended for a marital home, I had no legal grounds to recover the money which would have been considered a gift. So, I foolishly went ahead with the sham marriage with her promise that I would receive some of my money back after her green card was received. Her family always supported her in every way as their viewpoint of the world was there were those who were hunters and those who were prey and it was the natural order. Ironically, the grandmother was a Schindler's List survivor who said that many who survived, including herself, had to put aside morals and if it meant taking the food and clothing of those who were weaker, that was what many people did and were mostly ashamed to talk about. She was not and the family was very proud of her survival skills.
We went back to Sydney, purchased the home she wanted and had a very large wedding for which no one I knew would attend. She insisted the bank account and house remain in her name, even after I became an Australian citizen, supposedly for tax reasons, which turned out not to be true at all. It was ironical, very much like the Australian film Muriel's Wedding where a very unattractive, uneducated, dreamer struck it big. On our wedding night, we slept in separate bedrooms at her insistence, even though we had slept together prior to our marriage. Separate bedrooms remained the norm for the next five years until the green card came through and we immediately returned to the US to activate. We did sleep together several times and did have two children which were only intended to increase her payout, something she later laughed and bragged about. She and family never showed the slightest amount of remorse and quite to the contrary, were amazed at the ease in which they had collectively pulled this off. As they later put it, it was much easier than the colloquial "taking candy from a baby" as I had effectively, handed it over.
On returning to the US, she very quickly hooked up with a very wealthy man, Marc, an HR executive at Lenovo and presented me with a separation agreement. If I did not sign, I would receive none of the financial proceeds from the sale of the home and would never see the kids again. Extremely naively, I initially did not believe it was possible until I started researching on the web and speaking to attorneys. I realized then that I could lose everything. The agreement was extreme and said I could not sue her soon to be husband for alienation of affection and I would need to take care of 100% of the children's financial needs including all medical, educational including private school and college, etc. expenses and make her the beneficiary of my estate including a large life insurance policy. I also had to put aside a very large six-figure amount in a 529 educational fund for each child. Furthermore, I would be responsible for all of her legal fees if I challenged any aspect. If I did not agree or took the document to an attorney for review, I would never see the children again so I foolishly signed. For that "agreement", she returned 25% of the funds I had earned prior to meeting her as we had saved nothing in the years I had worked due to her expected lifestyle including live-in housekeeping domestics and au pairs to take care of the children's needs.
As soon as the ink was dry on the separation agreement, I was told that my role was now finished and she was moving on with her life, immediately betraying the very misplaced trust I was forced to believe in. Seeing the children, 3 and 4 became a matter of a few hours on a Sunday when it was convenient for her, despite my having joint custody and much greater visitation rights. They refused to call me Dad or Daddy and referred to me by my first name and no matter what I did with them including strawberry picking and visiting museums, would carry on and scream they hated me and did not want to visit as I was 'poor'. My house was modest (2,000 sq. ft.) compared to their mother's (7,000 sq. ft.) who had walked away with over $1 million for a brief marriage, a figure she bitterly complained about was a mere pittance. Her husband, an imposing bald tri-athlete, would threaten to kill me every time I came to pick up the kids and repeatedly in front of them, said I was not their real father and a coward not to fight him - expressions mimicked by the children to me later.
Due to the insane separation agreement that did not specify any contact other than face to face, I could not send the children gifts through the mail nor call them. Additionally, a process for expense reimbursements was never spelled out. This meant that for convenience, her husband would bill me monthly via emailing me a spreadsheet with the date, amount, and provider but no receipts or evidence. Their argument was that the settlement agreement did not require it and unfortunately, when I stopped paying these additional amounts, found myself in court with a two-year suspended jail sentence, having to pay her attorney's fees and a very large penalty with the judge upholding both of these arrangements. She did, however, agree that providing receipts going forward, was reasonable.
Shortly before the minimum wait period for a remarriage was legal, she called me to her home to discuss a move to Beijing that he was going to take up for his career. I arrived and in no uncertain terms, told them I would oppose it with all legal means possible. They would not hear of that and at that point, he grabbed me in a headlock and took me down. After a series of punches from him and kicks from her, they let me leave and informed me I could not stop them. Bleeding, I went to urgent care to be treated and returned home to police cars in my driveway. They had reported me as attacking them and although not arrested, I was given a charge of domestic assault against a female and trespassing, despite having a text message inviting me to come over!
I immediately obtained the services of an expensive attorney near the courthouse in Raleigh and Russell told me that with two people testifying, I had no chance at all of going to trial. The text message was irrelevant as they could claim they told me to leave and I refused. I was forced to plead guilty to a crime I did not commit and if I signed an agreement allowing them to leave the state which the court approved, my record would be expunged in a year after successful completion of a series of humiliating classes. No visitation was ordered by the Raleigh judge when they soon after moved which was to Milwaukee for a new job when he was terminated from his Lenovo job for a series of internal criminal actions involving bonuses.
A year and a day after our divorce was final, she remarried. I found the very limited visitation rights I had were now effectively null and void in North Carolina. By the time I tracked her down and got a new court hearing, more than six months had passed and as per the court appointed guardian ad litem, it would be too "disruptive" for the children to have further contact and his recommendation to the court was 'status quo'. This was despite his refusal to meet or discuss the situation with me until my lawyer intervened. The court ordered reunification therapy but was exceptionally vague on purpose but did say that she was to do everything in her power to encourage a loving relationship between the children and myself. However, before any therapy could occur, to avoid this situation, he obtained another job in Los Angeles and they moved there.
As I lived in North Carolina, I could not find a therapist who could take on the case as they were not authorized to treat over the phone or via Skype to a person not living in California. Finally, after many months of searching, we found one very shady therapist with a long history of very negative reviews on the web. Dr. Shatz demanded a large upfront fee that I had to pay and I flew out to see her but she was frequently traveling and could not have any established schedule. In the meantime, the children's US and Australian passports had expired and I refused to agree to have them renewed while I could not see them. She went back to court for this and to terminate reunification therapy, despite only attending one session and therefore, as was argued, she met her obligation. Judge Treu not only removed my joint custody at that point allowing her to solely get the passports for an overseas move but also determined that reunification therapy was not necessary and he would not order any visitation. No legal or moral argument was presented by himself and I firmly believe, like a lot of judges, that he received a very handsome retirement gratuity for his services.
I filed suit against the sheriff and da in collin county. Besides interference 2 judges committed act in violation of the penal code. On the sheriff and da, The code of criminal procedure is quite clear and used the mandatory lanuage SHALL. In a nut shell both the sheriff and da must take a statement. Additionally if a crime ie penal code violation was submitted, they have a nondiscrestionary duty to submitt it to the courts. I filed suit against them saying the legislative intent is mandatory and they as a individual chose not to enforce the law. Additionally children and myself have suffered irreparable emotional pain and suffering. In this type case you have to get past the immunity part first. But if you sue individually and not in a official capacity it can be done. I asked for money damages. I can find no case law where anyone sued for money damages. All cases were based on injunctive relief. I had a now ex committ aggravated perjury with transcripts as evidence. I have supervised visits as a result. Additionally we had a court enforced binding settlement agreement. Even the 5th court of appeals found it binding. But after one recused judge, the neck judge changed the agreement, appointed a receiver for the home which was settled in the agreement. The court told me to move out I said no. I was held in contempt and the house sold. I was not allowed to file a habeous corpus by the sheriff. What makes it interesting is 3 days before jailed i had a pacemaker put in. So i filed breach of contract/judgment againt the 2 judges along with a separate one for penal code violations and etc. In Texas after a court enforces a judgment they have plenary power for 30 days. These 2 judges in violation of plenary powers and by statue can only clarify a settlement agreement. No add terms, amend alter etc. I filed a mandamus to get clarification on plenary powers and settlement agreements. The judge cannot rule on all cases the same day. I plan on filing partial summary judgement on all as soon as they answer and the 21 day rule is out of the way. If the judge grants the first immunity i will file a change of venue under trcp 257 and 258 on the rest immediately. This will ensure one line of appeal. This should be interesting especially since I can play one off the other. My ssdi was cut off due to jail( fixed now) so i got to file indigent. If i get past the immunity, i can bare their ass in court. I asked for jury trial. I am pro se no lawyer. The judge who reclused said i was very smart. If the appeals court rules in my favor its makes it easier. They my decline to rule. Kind of hope immunity is denied then i might just go to court. Either way us abused parents will know how to file suit. I am suing the ex in a different court. I found a case out of Houston apellate court saying in breach of contract u can file in any jurisdiction. This oyght to be fun. I plead in my petution if any entity or person grants immunity rhey to are gulity of penal code violations. Thought I would share, on this case I could write all night.