My kids were abducted to the "divorce capital of the world" (take a guess where) so my ex could avail a better financial settlement. There was no jurisdiction for her to apply for divorce there as she was not a national nor resident so she made numerous false allegations of domestic violence and child abuse against me and embroiled me long enough in child welfare investigations to achieve jurisdiction.
Many investigations later, I was exonerated by social services and able to have extensive contact, but she regularly breached court orders. Both kids suffered from parental alienation syndrome. Was told by my lawyer that because of my ethnic origin and religion (it was put more diplomatically of course), if I voiced a concern I may be deemed as not supporting the kids relationship with the mother and / or an abduction risk. I also lost my job, millions of dollars in legal fees, my health.
I feel terrible to read about your experiences. I seems to be the same story again and again. May god give us strength and protect our beautiful children.
1Hello back in August 2009 i was the subject of amber alert. You can google my name followed by amber alert to read the story. I was never arrested for this. The sister in law of Chenelle call 911 and told them she is Chenelle and i kidnapped them all at gun point. This was investigated and proved to be a false 911 call. Needles to say Fl DCF removed the kids and stated in an emergency hearing the kids are unsafe and must be removed from the father and mother. For 2 yrs i seen my kids for 1 hour every 2 weeks. I never missed a court date or visit with my kids. Eventually my case went to trial. The judge order said i will retain full parental rights & the ex boyfriend mother will have guardianship until my kids are 18. This was done because the mother gave up & stop coming to court. The mother rights where terminated. The mother ex boy friends mom lied to the court and stated she was the biological grandmother.
9 yrs later i just won 50/50 time share with said guardian. Now guardian is doing everything to have the court end 50/50 time share because it stop her child support & goverrment benefits. The biological mother is deceased. Now the guardian collects death benefits will the kids live with me. The system is broken. We have a fundamental right to parental responsibilty & time share as stated in the constitution. Never give up & keep fighting!
Judge allowed my ex, who has no job, no marketable skills and no way to support herself or our child without relying 100% on family, to move our daughter 1200 miles from me to live with her family in Arizona. She has repeatedly denied me court ordered visitation with our daughter over the past 5 years, and was never held in contempt for doing so. I have never in the past 5 years missed one visitation with my daughter, even trying constantly to get my ex to agree to let me spend more time with her, have not missed one child support payment. Filed for primary custody when she petitioned to be able to move and was denied and had my daughter taken from me. I will be lucky now to see my daughter 2 or 3 times a year. This has devastated me, my wife, and our families. There is no justice in this type of "justice system".
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Went through hell like many on here with my ex-wife alienating me from my two children. All the classic alienation moves. Needless to say when the kids reached 18 we re-established contact and were developing a healthy relationship. Everything was good. I allowed my son to move into my home to "help him out". Well after three years of living with me with everything provided for free and him not lifting a finger to help out I had to ask him to leave. Twenty five and still going from job to job with no direction. Ex-wife took that as a good time to alienate me from the children again. My son had a child 5 years ago and he and the mother never married. Since I asked him to move out he is angry and this is fueled by his mother. The mother of his child and he are going through a custody battle in court with DCFS involved. He has tried to have the court declare that I am not allowed contact with my grandson. DCFS has already done extensive background checks on me and have refused to honor my son's request. I am thankful for this. I also get along well with the mother and get to have my grandson as much as I want. I am curious about something though. Have there ever been any studies done regarding children of divorced parents and those children being diagnosed with ADD? I know many divorced women and consequently custodial parents that cannot control their children, take them to a physician etc and those children are diagnosed with ADD and promptly medicated. My theory is that when in an intact family the dad is the usual discipliner to the children. When the father is reduced to a "visitor" to his children the role of discipliner is taken over by the mother. Mom finds she cannot control the child(ren) and takes them to the doctor to find out what is "wrong" with the kids. Ah there we go - ADD - we need to medicate. I am astonished that Physicians will so willingly diagnose and medicate instead of alternate means. Just my opinion but I think there are so many over medicated children out there. Kids will be kids, boys rough housing or kids in simple play doing what kids do is now considered activity to be medicated. Wow how the world has changed.
My ex disappeared with my daughter 5 years ago. From 2010-2013 I had no clue where she was. In 2013 i was summoned to court for child support and learned that she was living in North Carolina. I live in Indiana and have driven to NC 10 times trying to get her into court. Each time, she's found a way to avoid being there and the courts have allowed it. She even managed to move to Colorado and is currently on a vacation to Germany. Can someone PLEASE help me!?!?
I've told this story so many times and written to so many politicians, state reps, media, judges, Dept Of Revenue (Florida), Domestic Relations staff and the Child Support Enforcement Unit themselves in the past 6 months to no avail. It's almost as if they know this tyranny is going-on and choose to ignore-it and disregard it because, either they are really powerless or just plain are not concerned and could care less about honest and caring non-custodial parents. Perhaps most of them are discreetly involved in these schemes. All I know is, it is not right, they are in fact biased and they over extend their power unjustly. I also know in my heart that they should not be immune from legal action or criminal charges for forcing people like me into intense depression, mental anguish, hardships and homelessness like they have for the past 6 years. The fact that I am a US Army Vet w/ a clean background is irrelevant as I consider myself a law abiding citizen born in the US and naturally a generous and pleasant person. To compound matters I'm having to deal with 2 dishonest custodial parents who just sit back, collect and laugh their way to the bank every 2 weeks - monthly. The "children" are 19, 21 & 22, not living with their wicked mothers and self-sufficient with kids of their own but still, this NY enforcement unit continues to charge and garnish my disability at 60%. They claim they did not receive any court orders that I have to be the one to send it to them. Meanwhile, the records room sent them to storage at another location even when I requested them. I followed their instructions and mailed them a notarized letter twice.
I'm so sure it's all part of the rigged system to make it almost impossible for us to resolve these obstructions. So, here I am languishing in some VA Domiciliary, on mental health treatment and still unable to be independent or get my life back. They have garnished every single source of income I've had since 1994. Tax refunds in it's entirety, salaries, unemployment benefits, suspension of licenses, bed credit, and recently, alienation from those I helped support over the years. Who (I ask) is committing the crime here?
To compound matters, the former spouse misled and used me to thinking we were still friends and heavily involved in our daughters lives. While I was unemployed last year she confides in me that she will terminate the order if I'm willing to take one of our daughters to live with me and support her. I say (of course, you know I've never denied helping no matter what little I have) I'll do the leg work with the audio hearing etc. A week before the hearing she reversed course and said she could not attend due to only having 2 sick days left at work. That was her lame excuse but the real reason was, she did not want to reveal her assets and was so greedy that she wanted to wait for the outcome of my disability case which I won in Dec 2014. What did the enforcement unit do? They quickly, without questions or regards for my situation sunk their fangs into that compensation and took a big chunk plus the monthly 60% which left me again, struggling to get proper housing and having to consider yet another shelter.
I know this almost sounds ludacris or that I may be over exagerrating and even I can't believe these heartless dirtbags are crucifying me this way but it is true and I can prove it all in a court if ever given the chance.
At this point and time, I feel this letter will only fall on deaf ears as usual. I wrote to the supreme court last week and I responded to Marco Rubio's Office insult to my intelligence. They will do nothing but say..."it's really a separation powers and cannot advocate". I've heard it more than once. I will find a way to find a comparable, bold and aggressive attorney to bring it to court. This cannot remain shrouded for ever. God grant us the wisdom and soften those stone hearts of so many. Amen!
~ Joe Lopez Jr. (US Army Vet)
My case is one of the small minority where the Commission on Judicial Performance actually took disciplinary action against the "judge". He was found by the California Supreme Court to show bias and embroilment in my case.
The judge took away all my parental rights, except monitored visits, paying the judge's neighbor $50 per hour 10 hours every other week. When my ex denied even that visitation, the judge would not enforce.
I was ordered to pay child support based on zero custody. The Court looked right at my ex spouses pleadings, saying he was denying me all visitation, used the 0% figure and did not admonish my ex to give me my limited visitation.
I was charged $4,400 per month, even though I had no health insurance for myself and no attorney representing me.
My child is 21 now, and I'm still strapped with a quarter million child support arrears bill that grows by $1,500 per month interest. So my child was taken from me by a biased judge and I was ordered to pay. If my child was kidnapped, at least I could have gotten him back by paying ransom.
I wanted 50/50 custody of my kids and that was recommended by the custody evaluator. Judges ignored all recommendations and gave me 20% and a high child support amount. At each return to court, for work related schedule modifications, the courts take more time away from me and order me to pay more support without reason, yet do not modify schedules. They retroactively modify and re-interpret orders forcing me to pay even more. Last year I was ordered to pay $85k in back child support on commissions along with $52k in current support, all the while I was current! My bank accounts have been seized twice, my kids have been used to spy on me, I am denied medical expense hardships for $500/month in medical expenses and owed $190k in taxes last year. After child support and taxes I was left with ~$50k to live on and pay 1/2 kids medical, child care, my own expenses, including my medical and cancer treatment. I have no savings, while my ex earns $160k/year and has $250k in cash in the bank.
My daughter has ADD. My ex wife had not given me the information it about till I found out for my daughter was having an evaluation for an IEP in the 8th grade. She was failing 2 nad 3 semester in the 8th grade. I found a program to help my daughter. The ex refused to put her into the program. It was to help with her executive function. Tjhe court agreed and now I have to file a motion for reconsideration. Stupid
My husband has 2 kids, he pays their mothers each $650 per month. My one step son lives farther away and his mom has not ever been remarried and is living alone. I see child support as reasonable in this case. My other step son lives 2 minutes down the road, his mother was making $10k per year when she took him for child support. My husband makes $65k. Well over the last 5 years she has remarried and her new husband makes $120k per year and does not want her to work. How is it fair to my husband and I that we are going into debt over this child support and she's able to maintain a $14k savings account for herself and go on Caribbean vacations 2x per year? We have this child 50-60% of each month. It just seem fair that the new step father's income would matter in this case, he's supporting them. Yes it's voluntary but if a woman quits her job because of the new husband then there is no way she can better herself or know her true earning capacity. She went from !5k to $25k in 3 years, how do we know she couldn't get higher?
In 50/50 both parents are residential parents each parent should raise the child on their time and split everything else, such as medical. Extra curricular activities and so forth.
A story from the UK.
My wife and I became proud parents to a beautiful baby girl in 1995. Regrettably over the next two years or so, the relationship between my wife and I deteriorated and in 1997 we separated and in 1998 we were divorced.
Initially we both went to extreme lengths to explain how we wanted to make sure our 2 year old daughter 's interests were put first. My ex-wife had residency and my daughter came to stay with me on alternate weekends. However after a couple of months I saw a totally different side to my ex-wife
For the next 5 or 6 years, I and my family did enjoy regular contact with daughter, with her typically residing with me every other weekend, although I could sense my ex-wife was not too happy about this. I always tried to do my absolute utmost to ensure my daughter's safe and happy welfare, despite my ex-wife taking countless opportunities to demean me and put significant obstacles in the way.
In 2004, totally out-of-the-blue, I received a bewildering and devastating letter, supposedly from my daughter stating that she did not want contact with me or my family anymore. Although very upset, we reluctantly felt we had no choice, but to go along with these requests. My ex-wife informed me she would speak with our daughter to resolve the situation, but this never actually materialised. I contacted social services and my daughter's school and they advised me it was probably just a phase my daughter was going through, and to give her a little space and all would work out. In reality, contact with my daughter was effectively blocked. In a desperate attempt to stay in contact, I started to write and send her letters on a weekly basis, sometimes containing little gifts. This continued for the next 2 years when quite by chance I found out that my ex-wife had moved house 6 weeks prior. This was obviously deeply distressing for me and my family and since then the only way I could stay abreast of my daughter's welfare was via her school. My ex-wife continued to refuse to give me or my family a contact address or telephone number for my daughter. I continued to send birthday and Christmas cards to my ex-wife's parents’ address for forwarding on, but I had no acknowledgement that these were getting through.
My father threw my mother out of our home one winter night when I was four years old. She had no shoes or coat on and a broken wrist. First thing the next morning he got a lawyer to call this "abandonment" and he received temporary custody. By the time the court date came to get full custody, my mother had been bullied and intimidated and beaten down, emotionally (but also physically, w/ a broken wrist) and backed down. My father gained full custody. I wish I could meet that lawyer who gave my father temp custody based on my mother's "abandonment".
I live in Australia. I recently received my daughter's School Report in the mail. It remains the only tiny shred of information that tells me she is alive. You can imagine how utterly overwhelming is the spectrum of emotions I go through when I hold that precious bit of paper and drink in every single word -over and over again. Or can you? Its not really that different to the overwhelming emotions alienated parents go through practically every hour of every single day. My daughter has been betrayed by people of influence who should hang their heads in shame. Her places of learning have failed her, various counsellors, lawyers, family members and Court professionals have failed her. The system has failed her. Our society has failed her. This was preventable and should not have happened. Parental Alienation (and its myriad of subtleties which bring the same result) is child abuse and needs to be recognised and treated as such. I am channeling my outrage in two ways. My priority is to be available and as healthy and happy as I can manage so that I am right where my daughter needs me to be when she resurfaces from the underworld. I haven't always been happy and healthy given the torture that is PA but with support from a wonderful wife and friends, I know my many blessings. I have always been available though. I have relentlessly assured her that she can call me about anything on any day at any time - always. I believe she knows that will never change.My second intention is to help raise awareness that PA (or pathogenic parenting) is child abuse - nothing less. Child abuse is everyone's business. It is not ok to stick your head in the sand when a child's treatment of an emotionally available parent does not add up. Its too late to save the years my daughter has already lost with her paternal family but I want to help prevent some others from going through this evil nightmare that ruins lives. Understanding is improving and awareness is growing with researchers such as Woodall and Childress opening doors. Please take an interest.
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My grandson lives with his father for six years my daughter has been in and out of court on false claims in an effort to make her look as bad as possible so that she will not get 50 percent custody. We have sunmitted proof of false claims, the father and his lawyer have lied to the judge, the judge caught them in lies and still they do nothing to him, he smoke screens the real issues and purgers himself openly, he wants us to go away so him and his new wife can steal my grandson and the courts are letting them do it. I hired a lawyer, the lawyer says there are no grandparent rights in California. he knows my grandson tells me what they say about us, I repeated it in court after the judge ordered both parents not to talk bad about each other in front of him. He disregards all court orders knowing there will be no penalty cause his dad works for the county. I thought very seriously about filing a case against the court for keeping my grandson from us unlawfully due to conflict. I have contacted children rights advocates and they say they can't help because my grandson is not "in the system" this poor child has grown up to believe we are bad people and we don't matter. It is a crine in its own right. He makes up stories about drugs and his brother has a prescription and deals pot, he turns everything around on us in court. I'm disgusted with the court system.
i thought about filing a dept of justice complaint but don't know if it would do any good. These people are the bad ones, to mentally twist and corrupt a child's mind, he is acting out now after six years of this and there is nothing I can do. Very sad
Judge refuse to indict women for contempt for denied visitations. Mileage, phone records, and affidavits proved missed visitations beyond doubt. Things only got worse from here.
I'm an former Air Force Lt Colonel and an Air Force Academy grad. I was in Big Brother Big Sisters for 5 years and still keep in touch with my "little brother" who was a Marine serving in Iraq, but now I can't contact my own two daughters. I personally spent 9 months and $10K on attorney fees fighting my X for contempt of court, but now she's turned my kids against be telling them I initiated the lawsuit (I only threaten her) and telling them I asked to get the kids "psych evaled." I have not been able to reach my daugthers in over a year (no text, calls, or emails). My X tried to accuse me of emotional abuse and turned my kids against me with lies, just to deflect my charges of 4 years of blatant denied visitations averaging 12 denied visitation a year. A normal, sane, caring mother who is concerned about the welfare and emotional health of her kids does not do this, but these type of mothers get to raise our kids.
My former wife and I separated 5 years ago, during that time she has moved to Tennessee and I have moved to Washington. The last time I saw my daughter was 4 years 8 days 3 hours and 54 minutes ago. In that time I have tried time and again to get some type of visitation that doesn't require me to forgo paying rent or buying food. At the time of separation we lived in Indiana. I am trying to get her to agree to an annual exchange of custody so I can see my daughter but she has thus far refused and is refusing visitation (since traveling is dangerous to her according to her mother). I don't have a lot of money and live paycheck to paycheck. I suspect that I'll have to get the courts involved but I have no idea where to start and what steps to take... Help?
my nameis bruce and the mother of my child just stop letting me see her about a month ago..i am a dedicated father who loves his little girl,i work everyday i pay $180.00 every 2 weeks in child support..i own a 5 bedroom house and i am drug and alcohol free..she is mad at me for whatever reason i do not know..but i do not deserve to have the relationship with my daughter severed because of her anger towards me...i had to take my daughters easter basket and her easter dress to her daycare because her mom will not answer any text messages or phone calls..i hope that i get granted some type of visitation or temporary custody because my daughter deserves a better life than what she is getting..her mom had her living in a hotel from febuary-3rd up until may 3rd with her fiance who is an alcoholic with a ccw..yes he carries a gun..and i am just stressed out about my childs safety and well being..this is the first time having to deal with this type of situation..so any advice will bre well taken.. thank you!!!
I live in Snohomish County, where my two sons were born. My fist custody trial became a circus focused on whether, as an epileptic, my medical use of cannabis rendered me unfit to see my boys at all. While I lost custody, I was given relatively a lot, including right of first refusal. When I tried to hold the mother to those terms, I was castigated for missing a hoop in procedure while she was gently advised not to be contempt of court in the future. My first refusal was eliminated when she found a husband on the Olympic Peninsula. The boys are there and I see them two weekends a month and any Wednesday afternoon I can get over there. Now, I listen helplessly as they detail the treatment they receive there: smacks on the head; forced to eat food they sincerely dislike; and forced to stand in the corner with nails pressed against their heads. I don't know what to do anymore. I've lost all faith in the American Legal System.
Unfortunatly i live in Seattle Washington and am being drug into King County Family Court, which is hell for a married man and Father !!! After 28 years of a great relationship and marriage with my wife and what I thought best friend , she texted me of all things that she wants a divorce and wants me out of my house now. I was devestated. For the first time we were in our fifth week of counseling and things were getting talked out and we were learning about our love language and how to communicate and she told our shrink all was great and things are improving and she is getting happy again from communicating. Well she went on her planned trip with out three teenaged children to Wyoming to her sisters , where she devestated me and my family!?? I have been sober for 21 years with her, I have never been to jail or had the police called on me and have been in church and volunteerjng and her and I prayed together and really truly thought all was well as I just put her through five long years of college and she just started working as a full time nurse after 19 years off being a homemaker. She changed theocks one day had a restraining order because she was afraid and had the pice escort me away from my home with nothing , no money, no clothes, nothing. Then a judge gave her the home, kids, car , everything and I get the shaft, I have to pay $2500/month fot two kids, one 13 and one 17, the other is 19. I have been the stay at home parent for the past six years whr she was in school fulltime everyday and volunteered at the hospital she now works at fulltime.i am on disability after an on the job injury disabled me in 2008 , I broke several discs in my back and blew both knees out and had six knee surgeries and back surgery followed by a pulmonary embolism , it almost killed me. I was depressed and was well on my way to recovery and taking care of all three kids and very happy to do so. I wole them up one at a time, as they were in three different schools for three years, I made them breakfast and drive them to school , picked them up and took them to all their many spots and programs daily. I was very very close to each child. Two had 4.00 GPA and my mini me , the middle had a 3.85 . They were excelling in everything as dad was on it. I cooked , cleaned did laundry paid all the bills, yardwork was very hard but I got it done, my wife came home and would nap, eat and then watch her shows and study all night as she also had a 4.00. Needless to say aOt going on. Well as soon as she graduated I felt the demise begin as if it was planned and was. By two months she was cold and witholding sex and any intamacy . She could find something wrong with our perfectly clean house. " she told me that I cleaned and did it all to prove how easy it was and only took an hour a day, not all day", I never even had those thoughts. I had planned a romantic get away at the " I still do" marriage conference in Portland. Got a nice suite o. The wTer and had my bro coning to stay with kids. Had is time all ready. I had abother ring that could be added to her $25,000 rock as I was going to remarry her and have a perfect 25 year annaversary all planned out and I was very excited to surprize her. Still have no idea of she knew all that? anyways the f'ed up judge literally handed her everything she asked and tossed me out of my home and out of my kids lifes. It's 75%-25% custody to my wife and she has been rewarded for quitting our family and devestating four lives. I am so shocked that I have all my civil rights stripped , my guns taken, concealed weapons permit, all my belongings she still has, all my tools and personal family air looms . I get totally punished gor trying to keep my family together and wanting to finish raising my kids and can't. My fricken wife works from 5:00AM until 4:00pm on weekdays and she works every other weekend. For the first time my kids are for ed to get up on their own get redy for school and fend for them selfs during the cd ass winter my 12 year old at the time 2014 winter had to walk in the dark and ride the bus all alone and change her every way of life. As I sit home Ali Ali e praying I could wake them one at a time as they are all in different schools again . One in college, one in high school and my baby in jr high. While my wife is gone all day and now started drinking and whoring around and gone almost constantly. While dad is just destroyed and was so depressed I considered quitting after that F'ed up judge had no answers why logic is in the equation or why common sense doesn't apply. Now that temporary orders have gone all her way and I refuse to admit it's over because I want to stay together and think it can work because I'm willing to not ask one question and forgive and give her ChRIST like grace , as she has never done anything remotely close to this for 28 years. I thought midlife crises as she is almost the big 50. I struggled 1 1/2 years ago turning 50. Anyways I am terrified to step back in that biased and unreasonable courtroom. I can not believe this is happening in the greatest country in the world and we the people sit here and allow it. OMG I sat through many cases to learn what the hell I was up against after reading horror stories. I thought ," oh it's just the men not representing them selfs well" and they need to communicate better to a judge. Bullshit, 12 out of 12 cases were all awarded to cheating home wrecking moms who are abiding their father and the kids but, who gives a shit . I the judge say so. It is so wrong and unjust and ungodly that it must be corrected. I am in utter believe!!! It's like the twilight zone. Are you kidding me. This is our system??! I have not even had a chance to see a judge or talk to one person and lost my guns and rights to bear arms, had all my stuff taken from me, had been close to going to jail because she says I'm harassing her? 7 police reports. 7. I have done nothing or do not have a record or ever been in trouble. I lost my volunteer job helping street people get right and feeding then through a AA+ Gods way+NA= your new way. I can't go there with a false restrai i g order. My kids look at me as a villan and I can't even dtop the kids off within 100 feet of my house in my name. Also the wonderful self appointed judge gives a nurse making $90k plus unlimited OT, half of my disabity, I can't have my computer or one thing unless she says so. I am besides myself . No wonder women do this shit and take hard working men for all their stuff and take Fathers from kids. Especily Fathers that want to raise their kids. I can't even go to their schools or call my house?? It is so bad I really can't explain it enough. What the guck are we doing allowing this mutant and dictated ships. We can't even get a jury for divorce court unless we go over the judges head, I can't believe this is America and the same country my forefathers fought to abolish bullshit like this. Men are so discriminated in family court. That I would sue every single person on the judges side or part of such a retarded system that is in desperate need of help now!! More than any other country now!! My country just stripped me of my civil rights and took my home and kids and guns and the policeman literally had the full to threaten me as I called him?? OMFG if God don't hold them sons of a bitches accountable he owes Soddom and Gohmorra an appology. God hates divorce!!! He said that two became one and let no man sepetate what he has joined together.prior to mosses and the New Testament if a woman did this crap it was punishable by death!!! By death !! Equal to the punishment of murder! Now their handed the keys, money, kids, homes, bank accounts and the big killer !! ( MY DAMN DOG ). I went by to get him and I yelled Kody, Kidy come here boy, and my now extremly fat 110lb Golden Retriever snubbed me and rolled over in the yard and fell asleep. I walked him everyday. Oh please some one help advise me. I live in West Seatyle and have got 51 years.
my wife filed an emergency pick up order which was denied buy the judge but a hearing was set. When we arrived at the hearing this female judge told my wife (we are also getting divorced) that she could voice her side of the story first. So my wife proceeded to claim that our 5 year old has missed a week of school and that this was my fault cause i had kept our son from her but later resolved the issue. This wasnt the case but then the judge asked her what she wanted in the way of child custody and my wife stated she wanted our son mon thru fri. The judge then asked my side of the story which she repeatedly allowed my wife to interrupt (which she would not allow me to do to her when she was talking) once I started to express that I was simply asking for fair and equal time sharing of our child and would like to do a 3-4-4-3 schedule or a weekly rotation schedule the judge cut me off and just stated she was ordering that I may have my son from 4pm friday to 4pm Sunday and that my son will be with his mother the other days. I began to ask why and the judge basically told me she didnt have time for this and that she only allotted 30 minutes for this hearing and that her decision was made and not open for argument. Mind you i was polite and professional the entire time as I previously worked as a law enforcement officer for 6 years and now a private investigator so im very familiar with how to conduct myself in the court room setting. I politely stated that this is not fair and is not equal and the judge stated she feels being with mom is in the best interest of the child and so the child can go to school. I stated he can still go to school if we have a 50/50 shared parenting plan. The judge cut me off again in a stern manner and just said her order is standing and dismissed us from her chambers. This is not right or fair! This judge assumes that because my wife is the mother she is the best interest of the child yet she doesn't know nor did she take the time to find out that me and my wife separated when my son was 1 year old and from the time my son was 1 till he was 3 I worked full time as a police officer while my wife only had my son for 1 day a week cause the other days were spent working at a strip club, doing cocaine and partying all the time, Or that my wife was arrested for battery domestic violence where i was the victim of her attack or that my wife was baker acted for threatening to harm my son!!! This judge made a life altering decision in less than 30 min without good reason or cause simply because the judge is biased against fathers and gives preference to woman (mothers). Now im at a loss and feel like there is no hope for equal time sharing or equal rights to my son. I didnt have my father growing up and I always maintained i would never be absent from my childs life and now this judge takes it upon her self to order when i can see my child
Colorado: Two issues to deal with - parental alienation and therapist bias.
After the divorce, our daughter-in-law:
Then, two weeks ago, his ex-wife:
My Son Has a 3 yr old boy who is the light of his life.
He and The childs Mother were not married but she wanted my son to stay home and take care of the child Because she had a job and was being moved up to Management. I never thought it was a good idea but they wanted one of them at home with my grandchild at least till he could communcate .
Well she got the job and that is awesome.But then she broke up with my son and has not let him see the child in months. Always Says she gonna get a restraining order and that she is going to change the childs last name.
We Do not have a bunch of money but this is getting outta hand I am no longer able to be a part of his life and My son is just tore up.
What can we do? I mean she had said she was going to take the child and leave. for the first two and a half yrs of this childs life Charles was with him 24/7 So now what about the babys mental welfare?
If you know anything tips or contacts in Jacksonville florida please Help.
I very Sad Grandma
My name is Juan Ramirez and hope by sharing my divorce story - many may benefit and or learn from my experience. I am a reservist in the Navy and work for a major utilitiy company. Shortly after 911, I was deployed three times. On my third deployment...one month before returning home, I discovered spouse was having an affair. It was a very painful ordeal to discover every detail from my spouse's affair, but somehow managed to forgive her. As time passed, wife became pregnant by her lover. I endured watching her stomach grow as she refused to leave our home. Months later, my eldest daughter (17yrs old) followed her mother's footsteps and became pregnant by her boyfriend. Went to court and was shocked when wife and eldest daughter wrote horrible declarations against me. One of my sister-in-laws also joined to write false declarations against me, but in the end the truth prevailed. Ex-wife also tried to convince courts new born was my son. Obviously, she lied to the courts and was only warned. Judge was not fair and now wants me to pay $2,400 in child support and alimony, plus pay $9,000.00 for ex-spouse's attorney fees. I often ask where is the fairness to all this? Ex-spouse created all this mess and instead of courts doing the right thing, have amazingly awarded ex-spouse. I have been slapped with all these exuberant fees as if I created all this mess. My attorney has been worthless and only been good at exhausting my money. I am about to foreclose on my house and have damaged my credit due to paying attorney fees. I requested assistance from various agencies and all I got was the cold shoulder. The only thing that keeps me motivated, is my youngest daughter (12yrs old). I regret with time I may end up losing hope and may become another Veteran statistic of becoming homeless. What must I do to have courts review high alimony and child support fees? I need this matter to be fair and reasonable. Judge only focused on gross and not on net pay. I understand California is a no fault state, but rewarding someone for adultery is an unlawful practice which needs to be amended. Many Veterans who have proudly served and are returning home to deal with marital problems similar to mine, need to be better protected by both military and civilian Family Laws. Enduring combat stress and dealing with the betrayal of a loved one - is a great recipe for disaster. Currently, both military and civilian family laws do nothing to protect a service member. Our legal system is a big circus with a bunch of clowns being legalized to steal from hard working people. I am ashamed to have placed my neck on the line only to be treated as a criminal by our legal system. Our nation's family laws are ultimately a big flaw, a viscious unfair cycle, and need to be rewritten. Family laws in our courntry need to be amended in order to protect those who have proudly served and given the ultimate sacrifice. Coming home to more chaos and not being legally protected is a shameful act and a mental blow to our servicemembers. Is this the gratitude and support we give to those whose served with honor, courage, and commitment?
For the first 8 years of my son's life, he and his mother lived in multiple states (Tx, AL, OK) and I can't even count the number of schools he's attended because I was unable to keep track. His mother had another child with another relationship which she later lost custody of.
Back in 2011, I received a call from Tx CPS stating that my son's mother was arrested and was in jail. I immediately drive to Tx to get my son who was in the care of a relative. For the 19 months, I had him 2 courts had ordered his mother to pay child support and she refused/failed to pay. After numerous, court appearances in Tx (I live out of state), the judge decided my son would go back to live with his mother. My son's mother did not have a job, was living with a boyfriend of a few months, and had multiple arrests and warrants in her name.
It is so frustrating dealing with an unfair court system that automatically favors the mother.
My name is Josh Houston and I live in Park Ridge, Illinois. I am currently in month seven of a court battle with my ex-wife to get a shared parenting schedule for my two children ages 6 and 9. I am representing myself, as I cannot afford to pay an attorney again. Several years ago I was engaged in an 18 month custody battle with my ex that left me penniless and forced me to file for bankruptcy. When I filed a motion to change our current visitation schedule back in July of 2014, I felt the issues were simple and that I did not need an attorney to explain the facts. I couldn't have imagined this taking this long or that I'd be faced with such opposition, yet that is exactly what my reality is.
In June of 2014, I moved to Park Ridge, where my ex and two children resided and still currently reside. I deliberately moved there to be closer to my children and play a greater role in their lives. My son was having serious struggles in school and was once found crying in the school bathroom because he "misses his Dad". I live approximately 1.7 miles from where my ex lives and 1.2 miles from the elementary school they attend. I have taken them to school and picked them up numerous times and have full capability to maintain their school and extracurricular schedules. I have never been convicted of a crime, I do not use drugs, I am not an alcoholic and there has not been once single instance of domestic violence between my ex and I. My ex and I attend parent/teacher conferences together and regularly communicate via email regarding the children, school and making alternative arrangements to the joint parenting agreement parenting schedule. My ex simply refuses to agree to a shared parenting schedule and both the GAL and Judge are reluctant to grant it. The only argument I've heard from anyone is that changing the parenting schedule to the degree I'm seeking would be disruptive to the children. To me, that implies that they believe that this perceived disruption would be so great, that it would outweigh the benefits of the children having more time with their father. It is such an inherently flawed argument that I don't even know where to begin.
I have been involved to the greatest extent possible in my children's lives. When my ex and I divorced, my son was 5 and daughter 2. Since then, I've been an active father in their lives. I attend all of their school performances, sporting events, etc. I've never been late with a single child support payment and have never once asked for my support to be reduced, while my ex has twice sought increases. I live in a beautiful house with plenty of space, full of clothes, toys and everything else my children need. I remarried in February 2014 to a woman who I was with for two years before that. She adores my children and they adore her. We recently had a baby in January, yet because of the outdated parenting schedule we have, my children have seen their new sibling maybe four times, despite living merely 5 minutes away. One of my greatest fears is that they will all grow up perfect strangers without ever being able to develop a bond that all siblings share.
I'm certain that I am not the only father out there who has dealt or is dealing with a similar situation. I just want to be with my children and they want to be with me as well. I believe it is my God given and Constitutional right to have an equal amount of parenting time with my children and refuse to accept anything less. I would like nothing more than to share my story with others in hopes to increase awareness of the obvious refusal of the court system to recognize that fathers are just as important in a child's life as a mother and that equal time with both parents is what is best for any child, provided both parents are fit. Psychologists and sociologists all agree that the antiquated beliefs of a child needing a "home base" and that shared parenting is not in the best interest of a child, are misguided and predicated on assumptions that no longer apply in the society we live in today. I have spent countless hours researching the topic and reading to educate myself and all I find is unwavering support that a fathers role in a child's life is as important as a mother's and that there is a need for the family court system to adopt to this very notion.
I was charged falsely by d c f s an sent to prison on false allegations that separated me from my daughter whom I love very dearly! I am still trying to clear my name an get all of my rights back as a law abiding citizen. I have yet to spend quality time with my 14 year old daughter whom I've been separated from since 2009. It has been a nightmare for me and entire family more so I an my daughter. I was not even given due process and my case went from the administrator form to judicial form with out me having a clue next thing I know criminal charges had been filed against me with out me even being summon to come to court to here my side of the story. I am at poverty level living and minimum education, so I could not afford a hi price lawyer. I was consider guilty before even given a fare honest hearing. I missed a pre-hearing phone call from the administer law judge, so I was consider a abandonment on the case which I request in mail and by phone another chance to state my case and to inform judge an ass. parties that I did not abandon the case. I denied and end up in prison. I believe GOD has a greater plan for my life. the state of il has cause me and my family so much pain.
My name is David Brown. I am a military officer who has been abroad in Germany since I got married to my X in 2010. Later that year, I discovered that she was cheating on me with another Soldier while I was deployed to Afghanistan. I've since forgiven her for this since I was not emotionally supportive and can understand why she left me.
Nonetheless, she and her boyfriend, a police officer in her local city, have been keeping me from seeing my son. Despite our visitation agreement, she only allows me to talk to him for 10 minutes a week and I have to get the police every time I want to pick my son up for visitation--they no longer help since her boyfriend is a policeman. She has made 10 family court cases against me, two criminal harassment claims, and one child protective services claim--all unsubstantiated. She and her boyfriend have also filed false claims with my commanding officers thereby ruining my military career. Additionally, they have returned my sons gifts to me—Christmas and birthday gifts. Every time I get her new number or email address, she gets new ones. My son has one number at which I can reach him and it is on a pre-paid cell phone, which is “on when he is available.” I've spent over $50,000 is lawyer fees and am all out of money. She uses the child support to pay for lawyers to fight me.
My son has a form of skin cancer and she’s sending him to mental therapy because he’s having trouble adjusting being caught in-between us. My son is 5 years old and doesn't know who I am despite the fact that I have been fighting to be in his life.
My name is Pete, and I reside in the Sacramento, California area. Due to an extremely intense divorce/child custody dispute in 2010, my ex-wife was able to manipulate my children to make false allegations of sexual molestation. My ex wanted to move back to her native Brazil with our three children, but I would not give her permission. Our divorce agreement gave us joint physical/legal custody. The only way my ex can travel to Brazil with our children, is if I sign notarized consent forms with the Brazilian consulate, or if I died, or was convicted of child molestation and sentenced to life in prison. My ex has a wealthy sister in Brazil who is a "pop star", a singer in a famous band. Through the process of parental alienation and promises of living in a wealthy environment, my children made false allegations of molestation. I was arrested and placed in jail for 14 months while I awaited for my trial. I was subsequently acquitted, but I still can't see my children. Once accused, a person remains under suspicion for EVER. My children do not want to see me, and there is absolutely nothing I can do about it. I live with a heavy heart, frustration, and complete bewilderment on how easy it was for this to happen to me.
At the time allegations surfaced, my youngest daughter was 6, my oldest daughter 10, and my son 8.
I was a 20 year veteran police officer in the bay area when this occurred and was terminated. I had an overzealous prosecutor and an incompetent investigator. The deputy district attorney assigned to my case had many doubts about the veracity of the allegations and tried to dismiss it, but the County District Attorney decided to go forward with the trial. He was up for re-election and felt that convicting a police officer would help him in his bid for re-election. This was conveyed to my attorney. If I were not a police officer, my would have been dismissed.
My life is meaningless without my children. It is just so crazy that I could have ever even been accused of something like this. My ex wife was the root cause of the false allegations. She ruined many good lives especially my children's. I can only hope and pray that God looks after them and someday returns them to me. I miss and love them so very much. Words alone can not fully describe the heart ache that paralysis me.
Thank you for allowing me to share my ordeal. I could write a book on all the details and may do so some day.
As the title hear says, it's a "horror story," which seems never ending. I was allegedly married six years. I have a 7-year-old son and a 12-year-old daughter. Mom has full-physical custody, despite her mental health issues; I only have joint legal custody, though those rights are not enforceable apparently; in the least, it doesn't mean anything to the system.
In the fall of 2013 my X-wife was hospitalized due to mental health issues; she's allegedly receiving medications and allegedly had been going through therapy; individually and group. Though educated, by choice she does not work - she only works as a sub for a school cafeteria. Though "child" support is supposed to be based on both parents' incomes, including imputed income, it's not in my case. I pay roughly $1,100 for my two children, though it's really to support my X-wife. In addition to me supporting her, my X's parents continue to support her on a daily, weekly and monthly basis. They bought her a $240,000 house prior to the divorce - over twice the value of my home. Plus, despite her being "40" right now, she has a joint checking account with her rich parents (dad is literally a millionaire). That has no effect on the support I have to pay.
Initially I started a custody battle, but quickly realized I could not compete with grandpa's money, so I conceded (one of the most difficult decisions I've ever made).
Prior to the divorce, my X started parental alienation of my daughter against me. It intensified immensely over 2013 and into early 2014. So much so, that false allegations were made against me, claiming I abused my daughter (physically), though I never laid one hand on her (as evidenced by God and my son). Through the false allegations, they trumped up an Order For Protection charge. To get it dropped, I agreed to sign an agreement, agreeing to follow through with family counseling, plus, not have parenting time with my daughter for 9 months.
My X violated the agreement which she instigated; she never brought my daughter in for the family counseling, and she verbally admitted she's trying to keep my daughter away from me - all due to trumped up lies of abuse, which they got my daughter to claim.
That 9-month agreement has expired. Technically I'm supposed to start having her again. However, with the on-going parental alienation, their enmeshed family system, the lack of family counseling, etc, I highly doubt things will improve anytime in the near future. While the Courts would rule in my favor to restart parenting time, the Court can't change my X's heart, my daughter's heart, and my daughter's grandparent's heart.
Not mentioned above, is the sick and twisted family system that my daughter and son live in. Despite "living" one hour away, my children's grand-parents are at their house EVERY week and on the weekends my children are at their grandparent's house. It's a very sick, twisted, and enmeshed family system.
IRONICALLY, despite my X not allowing me time with my daughter, she's continued to allow me time with my son. And she's even allowing me an extra overnight every other weekend - above what the decree says.
I'm tired of it all. I can't afford more attorney/court fees financially, and I can't afford to continue the battle emotionally. I hate living life this way.
My story is not as bad as everyone else's here. My youngest child's mother, whom I didn't marry, tried to get back with me after my ex-wfe died two years ago. I turned her down, and she has since put me on child support and is keeping my son from me.
I tried to make my concerns known to the judge at the time through a probation questionnaire (not sure why probation was called in), and they produced a report that I be placed on supervised visitation! In telling the values I try to instill in my boys, I described a tickling incident with my elder son, which my younger reacted violently, even though we play this way regularly, instead of questioning the mother and her new live-in boyfriend. She has also conflated a conversation we had to get a order of protection placed upon me.
I can't get to trial, I can't get back my normal visitation, I can't get to mention her efforts to permanently alienate me from my son. I wish I could get real help on this!
2 Region 09 EPA Violations and my family is contaminated. I and my child as an infant, lived in a building that was condemned for Toxic Lead Hazard. While a family should not live in such a situation, there were no places for us to go. My child and I were exposed to illegal demolition and some pretty frightening landlord behavior that involved climbing into my bathroom window to visit the home on several occasions without notifying me for proper entry. He also had a hole from the next door apartment that was being demolitioned, into my home in a beneath kitchen cabinet area and I caught him eavesdropping into my apartment. There was numerous problems in that home and when it was condemned, all three single mothers with children, two others monolingual and bi-lingual, were evicted at Christmas time. As we were evicted by the landlord who claimed we damaged the apartment it was condemned and tested positive for Lead Hazard. We had experienced at least six months or more of constant exposure to the toxic dust, which settled in our apartment through the ventilation, and a dumpster of toxic lead refuse that was positioned outside of my infant child's nursery window. My neighbor too had vexatious litigation by this man, and those family's all experienced the same toxic conditions in the illegal residence.
A counselor confided to me that I was facing an action, and felt it was "unethical".
And he was correct.
When CPS came to visit, we became the target of investigation. Rather than helping us with the Lead, we were harassed and compelled into homelessness, while I was rejected from shelters because I was experiencing fevers, pneumonia and a toxic blood lead level. We were told that the site was the subject of a Region 09 EPA investigation but no one ever helped us. In fact, we were subjected to unlawful entries into our home, which building inspection department reported was immaculate for a condemnable building.
I transferred my child to the father who lives on an Indian Reservation, so that I could go into hospitalization, since I could not work, and required treatment, and you can't take your child to the hospital with you. There were no healthcare facilities for people with debilitating illnesses to stay and care for children. Naturally transferring the child was paramount to the past domestic violence history we maintained. There too is a toxic environment as there we live across the street from the largest strip mine in the United States on Indian Lands. Called a National Sacrifice Area, and where we live on the HPL, is subject to relocation. According to Dr. Thayer Scudder, causes community conflict for relocatees in many aspects of the life of the family. I suggest if someone ever reads this, to read his book, the Effects of Compulsory Relocation on the Navajo. When my son transferred, I still maintained Joint Custody and my rights were never severed. However, the father naturally self-imposed a restriction on visitation indicating that the social workers involved at the lead site indicated I had abused the child and that I was an unfit parent. That I had neglected the child for having him in that environment, despite the lack of financial support that naturally prevented me from financially enduring the move and hospitalizations. When I contacted the Tribe's CPS, they indicated that I had to pursue my own visitation and would not assist in reunification and that if I wanted to see my child I would have to pursue the matter through court. I tried several times to visit with the child, and managed to arrange one solid visit proposal and went to see the child, to transport him inter-state, for visitation. When I came to see my child, he was calling relatives his mother, and was not told that I was his mother. The arrangement with the visit was stressful and every attempt to raise a conflict was pursued, until I was forced to leave in the middle of night without my son on the day of the visitation transfer. I had contributed to zero conflict, not one word, and the day I set foot at my parents, I was served with TPO. I had given the child money for phone minutes, and a phone to contact me, and when I turned it off, I was charged with violating the TPO. I requested a phone hearing, and got an immediate motion to prevent me from doing so. The judge allowed me to participate by phone. The attorney I had hired managed to get the TPO dropped. One is that the father claimed that I had been crawling around in the dark and let out the tires in a car, he later denied having for child support.
I managed to find out that a few months earlier, he had the child removed from him in a border town while drunk in public, and had the child seized by CPS workers, who transferred the child to the Tribe. Neither CPS had contacted me to notify me of the transfer and placement of the child, as I had contacted them to arrange joint visitation. According to state law, CPS is required to notify the alternate parent. Not only was I not contacted, nor considered for that transfer, it was not admitted into the proceedings at any stage or time in two home studies. And yes, it was well within the time frame of the action.
I filed a Paternity Action and hired an attorney, who filed for the restoration of my rights as the father had no DNA test on record. Putative father, had to surrender the child in a transfer, but terrified the child, telling him to hide, that I was coming to steal him. The Police Report states clearly the child thought his mother was coming to steal him, and Parental Alienation was never a factor considered in the court. My child from that point forward began behaving as if he was a hostage, and began to emotionally unravel. We moved forward with two home studies and I participated in every single investigation and all requirements for background checks, competency and ability to care for my son. That's a herculean task for someone who is both disabled and unable to work, but is looking to get their life back. I want to work, but there are times that I cannot with chronic pneumonia. I even because of the stress, erupted in two pneumoniac episodes during the proceedings, with X-ray's showing lung issues. A severe sinus infection, some type of impaction, stemming from the earlier lead incident. I still test positive for blood lead but not at the levels from before. During the proceedings I was told that my son was included in participating in a ceremony to cause the death of myself and my attorney. While I was straddled in being unable to prove such an event occurred, my child contracted a severe MRSA infection while I was scheduled to present at a conference, which was my first real work opportunity since the lead incident. At the DNA test the attorney for respondent scheduled a DNA test, and then scheduled an exparte TPO. I was told by a social worker, on the day of the home study that an ex parte hearing was in progress for a TPO. For the life of me I couldn't think of why there would be one. So I rescheduled the DNA test for an hour earlier because, I understood that attending the DNA test would be a legal violation. The respondent's attorney attempted to file charges on me for not appearing at the scheduled DNA test appointment, yet filed ex parte TPO without serving me. Both attorney's engaged in a battle with that CPS worker on why she dared tell me that the TPO was scheduled and whether or not i could attend the DNA test. I'm sorry, but I don't understand what it was that I did to contribute to that mess. But I do know that I went to the test, and not only could I not get a copy of the test, but I still can't get the court to admit who paid for that test. There were several filings back and forth, both charging me for the test, and me being charged for responding to the allegations for rescheduling the test. And the TPO. Well, its hard to out prove a TPO when you don't engage in conflict. The burden of proof is so high, and I have found the accusations to be intensely invasive, and down to the minute for myself. But not for anyone else. Certainly not for the participation of the officers of the court in the next string of events. The school was calling me to tell me that my child had open oozing wounds appearing all over his body, his legs, his chest and his arms. His head. That he was bandaged but they were coming off as the wounds were wet and weeping. The child was incontinent in class, and had eruptive diarrhea and fever. He was removed from class one day, as being too infectious for class. Into my custody. They called me, knowing the child was infected and on visitation, and released him to my care. I requested the medication, and was rejected by the alternate parent who indicated I could go "and get it yourself" from the doctor and had the text to prove it if it ever came up. The doctor indicated that the child could return to class, when the lesions were dry and healing and they were. The child returned to class, and did not return home from school one day. I called the school to find out what had happened. And my son was taken by CPS and transferred to the father, indicating that I was interfering with the father's visitation. They had taken the child from the school, to the clinic and issued a Federal Mandated Report, that I had not surrendered medication to the father in a transfer that could not have happened, as the FOC had gotten the child at the school, and I was not notified. Of course no one ever asked to see the text. And in fact the phone was destroyed on the date of the transfer, as it was being shipped to me. It came to me completely shattered and handed to me, at exactly 30 mins from the ER voice mails, that I did not receive since I had no idea where my child was. So of course I have to pay for a Writ of Mandamus, for Superintending Control, and when that was filed, but instead of exploring the issue, it went back to visitation schedule without any inquiry to the incidents. Because my attorney had disappeared and was not responding to any communication. But during this process I adequately was able to demonstrate that my son had been experiencing symptomology from being over-medicated by antibiotics. While I was being chastised by CPS for exhibiting Munchausen like qualities, the medical reports clearly reflected the child experienced significant, not mild, over-medication reactions. Including rashes, unrelated to MRSA, the incontinence, as experienced the first week of visitation, and head aches and other emotional issues. Even experienced a re-infection. For which the father continued to accuse me of giving the infections to the child, while the medical record showed he had the infection and that I was never treated or seen with MRSA. But I did begin to get raised bumps at some stage while treating the child. The Final Hearing, finally, after 360 continuous delay days, several investigations and the over-medication incident, without hearing one issue by MOC, was produced while my attorney was claimed disbarred, or absent, and the other attorney had been fired I was told. Now I have a Final Decree and no one will say who wrote it, and it gets introduced at the Final Hearing, and I get physical custody, but in the Final Decree, there's specific language that not only condemns me as a parent for the lead incident, as neglect, although not found. Clearly articulating that I have "this issue". That I refused medication to the FOC, in a transfer, like I said, never could have happened, because I was not invited to it. And further the FMR, was assigned to me. I was given child support that was completely unenforceable. Including a provision that my child's insurance, would displace my own insurance, and cause me problems for treatment, which initiated a string of billing and collection from that event, that was found to be retaliatory billing by IHS EEO. Regardless, of whether or not anyone ever told me my son was being taken, if someone had asked me to hand over medication, I surely would have. However, what's a parent to do? Argue with something that is clearly in progress? I was rejected from being treated at the facility, and I was ordered to remain on the Indian Reservation with my child, with zero support, no place to live, and further, with no medical care. Ordered by the court. As if you thought it couldn't get worse. I borrow a line from the Munchausen list, that I always look, at. A parent that report being hit by cars and other negative reporting.
In fact, not fiction, we were struck by a vehicle that ran me over, and collided into my motorhome that went for repairs with insurance, so it did occur. EMS did arrive, and so did law enforcement. While onsite, my keys to my home and my vehicle, were taken from the examination area, and after the transport of one of the victims, and the first responders departed, a sudden onsite eviction came up, leaving myself and my child out in the cold without access to our home and our transportation. This residence was arranged through in-court home study process. And when someone came back to check on me, they arranged for law enforcement to go and get my keys back and I was allowed back into my vehicle and home. The response by the multi-agency task force was that the child may not be safe in my care and may have to go to the home, of the ever-reporting and ever involved father who had ties in evoking these conflicts in-court and out of court. I surrendered. Not only did I surrender, I did not battle, other than the vigil to continue to recognize with these court officers in presence that the child was experiencing harm that could be stopped. And it wasn't. Further, I was later threatened with never being able to work anywhere in the region. And further, I was able to produce two recordings of the death ceremony situation where the child was induced to participate. Targeting myself and my attorney remember? Well, my attorney I am told became at some point deceased. Which I did not find out really, until after the 2nd antibiotic and FMR was induced in an identical situation, taking the child without signing out from school, presenting the child to the clinic ER, for a "sudden infection", antibiotics prescribed. MOC not notified of anything except the bus comes and its empty. For this FMR, CPS does not show up to participate at all, apparently the health and safety of the child of no concern to anyone any longer. I file an injunction, and I am able to have the child returned through the school. I have to again go to the clinic, find out what my child had, and what medication needed to be restored. And further my child then has a mental breakdown in the parking lot, thinking he's being taken from the father by force. The officers on site say maybe he should go with the father, who is not picking up the phone, but has a message saying don't bother leaving a message I don't want to talk to anyone. And the child is in crisis, at the clinic with no medication handed off. No charges are filed of course. And my child is in the parking lot and is told by onsite security that if he walked away from the supervision of the adults, the PD, the clinic ER nurse and the security person, and the MOC, that nothing could be done to stop him from hitchhiking to his father's. Needless to say, the child attempts to hitchhike from the school parking lot, twice, and attempts to board the incorrect buses, after that, for the next few weeks. When I finally began to file grievances with various agencies, I asked them all, what the amber alert protocol is, if a child walks away, to hitchhike and is never seen again. How long would a parent be compelled to vigil onsite, if a child is instructed to hitchhike out of a parking lot, and with what agency and when would a parent be required to file a missing person's report if the child did or did not appear at the "other end", or if not seen again. Outside of this, in reporting these negative events, I find myself going back to the Munchausen definitions, to determine what science and behavioral health finds as the alternative, positive, or constructive parent process for the situations that are occurring in my case. I find that I'm being pitched as a non-compliant or argumentative parent, but then I am wondering what normal parents would do, if their child was experiencing symptomology from over-medication. I wonder what normal parents would be expected to do, if they learned of a death ceremony targeting them, and their attorney becomes deceased, and if the child was being over-medicated to injury to incite conflict, as a "use of clinical force". To invoke or instate a direction by law enforcement to support a goal of what was clearly defined in my case as exclusion and relocation protocol, for a parent who just wanted to share a child, or to be a part of a child's life. I find myself unable to determine what the non-combative approach was. In fact, I don't believe, I ever threatened anyone, and had there ever been a communication from me, that was alarming outside of the multiple communications demanded of such situations to resolution, that anything was ever communicated in any anger, or hostility. Not that I was unusually calm mind you, I can't check that box either. LOL Going back to that checklist. Hahahah. But I simply could not explain what was happening to us, without becoming close to some of those descriptions. The most difficult part, was filing the 2nd action. And watching the court, dissolve the situation, into a place, where the situation would happen again. In fact, I was ordered into mediation, with the guy who was having people threaten us, with multiple attacks, evictions, home invasions, car strikes, and we were even shot at with high powered bb guns. We had our animals destroyed, and we were charged with not washing our hands, and I had it all written in my final decree, that I was the lone agent of conflict, with a history of abuse. Except not once, was presented that the child was removed by these same agents, and the MOC was never notified. Which certainly didn't become relevant, until after my attorney was reported deceased. I filed a draft Writ Certiorari, and asked if I could submit it to the Supreme Court, after mediation disincluded the appointment of counsel I was assured of during the prior hearing. The respondent's counsel, called me crazy to the court, and eliminated my attorney and had me ordered into mediation. Where it was presented that the child could now pick which parent he wanted to live with. So, my reason for telling you this? Is because, its all real and verified with documentation. And that I was able to do this, and I want to help others. I was able to prove that the actions of harm, were ongoing harassment and attempts at relocation and exclusion, by documenting everything. I save ever document I receive with Year, Month, Day, in a year folder and drop it in. Every receipt, every communication. I kept a journal. I kept an incident log in Excel. I made a list of witnesses and their contact information and kept it up to date the best I could. I opened my mail, even when it hurt. I kept it in a folder that the child could not access and did not work on it while my child was home, except in the wee hours before the bus. I didn't let the comments get to me, but they did. But they never knew their comments ever hit me the target. I responded with whatever kindness I could muster. I researched. I did not let them intimidate me as a disabled but functioning person. I did not let the abandonment of the law enforcement sway me from pursuing justice. I still continue to seek the investigation into my attorney's disappearance. And its cost me more than I make. If it wasn't for my supporters, and Apple Inc, I never would have pulled through. I never told them who my supporters were because the ones that were, were contacted and threatened. Two lost their jobs associating with me. By the same agencies. One in home health care of a senior, and another in a counseling position in a relief program. After everything I've been through, I continue to try and find, some reasonable explanation, some accidental nexus, that would indicate what happened to me was not coordinated by government officials and officers of the court. I continue to view the definitions of psychiatric labels that are created to invoke conflict with parents to facilitate the adoption system. And here I am, I'm a parent, that reported negative incidents, including being hit by vehicles, and odd and unbelievable situations of medical illnesses. I continue to be disabled but in my mind, I hope, and pray that one day I will be able to work again, but like someone said. I'd be hard pressed to find anything in my region after what we've experienced. But I have two valid civil rights complaints in Region 09 EPA, in contaminated situations, where the rights of people who expose family's to contamination are protected, and simple family's are broken into irrepairable and unreplaceable lost time together. My child has hardships in his school. His damages are almost unrecoverable in class. He may not graduate. I am heartbroken he may be headed to the new juvenile facility being built across the street from the clinic parking lot where he was advised to walk into the world, rather than deal with the crisis he was faced with surrounded by people in health care. I have some snippets that may help others. 1. Disabled people have the right to work. But they also have a right to provisions that accommodate their ability, and their inabilities. If Steven Hawking can work, so can I. And I shouldn't be ostracized for being disabled and wanting to work or subjected to harm through investigation. Harm, meaning not being elevated into independence, and providing for myself and my child, or to not consider the harm it would incur to my health, or any denial of health care. 2. My child and I have a right to be seen together, for the incidents we experienced together, in traumatic episodes of conflict that injured us together. Despite the abuse of the term, a parent that "always wants to be with the child", in unhealthy ways. There are some ways that are healthy if they are to achieve resolution or healing. Counseling, DV treatment, my child and I do need. But it can be used against you, and clearly a checkbox to watch out for.
3. Demand absolute cessation of administrative assaults. So that you can move forward with any process to resolve or request external reviews.
4. I don't believe in my case it was at all possible, for there to be any avenue of non-combat. I tried to cooperate. And when there's one parent on the warpath, it doesn't matter what the other parent does. There's nothing that can be done, when the alternate parent has no intention of sharing custody.
5. Remember that transfers of children between parents should be normal. And if its not, the process is practically impossible. You will not come out unscathed.
6. No matter what, how secretive you are in keeping the dispute away from the children, the children are pretty much psychic and they can feel that somethings not right between parents. And there's nothing that you can do except get help.
And if that help is laced with derogatory insults from social services, that include ableist language, or attacking your disability services and insurance, your ability to work or not work, or in my case, not be able to work because of the number of assaults by the alternate parent. In addition to the chronic illness that is verified by a doctor. That any illness in your lungs or hidden in your body, does not give anyone the right to dehumanize you by calling you "crazy". Even if I was crazy, apparently with several home studies that provided my ability to care for my child, I would still have to surrender to any investigation. Its hurtful and discriminatory to call people crazy in social services, and its expected from parents in dispute. It should not exist in health care, the courts, and the CPS, that level of abusive ableism.
The lesson I learned from hearing the whisper of
The Indian Mental Health Act 1987 Chapter 8 deals with the Protection of Human Rights of Mentally ill Persons. Section 81 (1) states that ‘No mentally ill person shall be subjected during treatment to any indignity (whether physical or mental) or cruelty’.
Health care providers and multi-agency task force - They are required to abide by this term - Nonmaleficence: An extension of the 'do no harm' exhortation in the Hippocratic Oath, nonmaleficence requires that physicians consider any unintentional harm that could result from your good intentions. An honest assessment of risks and benefits should be a part of every treatment decision.
That it is important to know that agencies outline parents as targets when they are disabled and if either parent receives any form of social assistance. That at any moment you can be subjected to investigation by submitting an application and admitting to any form of disability, they can report you and have you re-investigated. Over and over on a dime, until they are successful, or you develop a reputation.
The federal government reimburses DCFS with nearly a two-thirds match of funds. For every $25 the state pays, the federal government will pay 3 times that or more.
Definition of an "eligible child" is complex with varying levels of eligibility, but basically explained that a child (or family) that is eligible for federal resources like Medicaid, or other federal programs, who is taken into custody has a "very good possibility to be eligible for the federal match."
The final prescription in the munchausen argument, like many slated for parents who engage to directly adhere to the protocol in child care and accountabilities as a co-parent. Is attention seeking, seeking some type of gratification, or sympathy. This title is automatically generated if you question any authority review over the actions of officers of the court in multi-agency task force. There's no review panel outside of court, to affectively address the multi-task force agencies decisions, finding, use of their investigative information or address the direct harm to the child from the over-medication use of force. If you go to the media with what they have done to you that is attention seeking. So I want to say in final, that I am appreciative of the forum here, to allow a full dialogue on my horror story, in a line item list, to allow others to research without having to be cross charged with attention seeking. But there are issues that do need attention in my humble opinion. For whatever its worth.
There are children who are being abused. If I as a parent see harm to the child occurring it is my duty to report by law. As a former social worker, I am too a Mandated Reporter. However, as a parent, this role is often abused. There's no right way of doing it. And when there's no right way of doing the chore, of protecting a child, its easy to see the conflict rise, above the ability for peaceful resolution without conflict.
Regardless of any innocence or Im a victim I can parade, there's no way that I can address the community humiliation I have faced, and that I can not walk down the street without feeling a cloud of hostility for being the targeted parent. I am exposed to constant assaults and people approach me and vocalize their disdain. And the father has removed all contact with the child claiming its all my fault. And the child gets the short end of the stick, and faces a few more years without any sense of a childhood and his education is completely demolished. I'm not sure what the court process was supposed to do for us. But it did not work out well for the child, for the parents, and for no one.
Except the landlord.
My story.. My name is Michele. 40 years old divorced after 7 years separation. I have 9 year old lil girl. My life want from hero to zero. I need help. I came from abuse and I faught also manage 7 horrific asthma attacks in which left me for dead and paralyzed. Now still at 40 i need to tell my story. All in a nutshell cause marriage failed my ex managed to take cars money house daughter from me.. We share custody but he makes is difficult. He puts me thru hell. I have no leg to stand on but faith. There is. A ton more but I go over 300. I hide behind my smile. Please someone listen and help me.
Somebody named Amy in South Carolina in 2010 posted how to scam an Intended Parent and keep the baby and the cash paid by the IP. Wegotchickens is part of her many email addresses and she uses several aliases with different chat groups. I am curious if she is still scamming IPs. Does anyone know if she is still up to her scamming and how many people has she scammed. I do remember she lives on a farm and somehow got a baby boy on another scam she had on an adoption site. She even bragged how she was building up her family because her husband cannot produce sperm. I am really curious if she is still scamming IPs. Please reply.
I was 20 years old. And in the army, when my girlfriend had my little girl.she would bring her over to my parents house for visits. When I was stationed in North Carolina. When I got to come home for two weeks for Christmas . My little girl had just turned 1. That February I was going to be deployed in Afghanistan. she took me to court while I was in Afghanistan. And got a judgment of 953.00 a month For child support. They got that amount cause you make more when your fighting in a war.when I got back to the states 6 months later. I wasn't making as much.but, they still were taking the same amount. and then a little later she took me back to court for back child support . My family had to help me fight this. Because i was not making ANY MONEY. I was getting a minus of 5 dollars. And then my next check would be a minus 10 dollars. And so on and so on. and so my aunt used her credit card for a attorney. And 11 thousands dollars later did hardly anything. So my stepdad Got me another attorney which he paid him three thousands dollars .i finally got my child support down to 600 .00 a month. But had to jump though hoops just for me to be able to have over night visits with her , when I'm home. my current girlfriend had to have a back ground check just for me to get over night visits. I feel like she has all the card and I have none!
A SUCCESS STORY
Ive vented on here a time or two before, but wanted to share something positive. A brief overview, in 2005 I moved to a new city where I had no friends and no family for the purpose of raising a child I had carelessly procreated with someone whom I wasnt interested in maintaining a relationship with in my home city. She knew this, and decided to move back to her home city, to which I followed. I think she despised me because she made it very difficult (still does). After going through the court process back in 2006, I was able to establish a 50/50 parenting time schedule. Of course it was up to me to actively maintain that schedule, which I painstakingly did. All the while I paid what I felt was an egregious amount of child support compared to my annual gross income despite no one buying my diapers, formula, clothing, etc (mostly because no family is around here) like she had done for her, while getting $$$ from me. I thought it was a bum deal, but if I kept my head down and trudged through that it would pay off some how/way/day.
Well guess what...8 years later it did. We found ourselves back in front of a judge because my sons mother didnt like something I was doing. I knew it was ridiculous to be there, and could not afford to hire another attorney, so I decided to go pro se. I used the opportunity to research my local/state laws regarding this, and after I was able to get her b.s. motions dismissed, I was able to ask the judge to review my side of the deal. Judges do not typically like to help pro se stances, so this wasnt some sort of casual conversation we had in chambers, more so answering the judges questions during the status conference/hearing, then filing motions on my own after that. Needless to say I had retained my 50/50 custody by getting her motions dismissed, but the other Win was getting the child support dissolved. I still have no right to claim my son as a dependent, but I am no longer paying her a dime in support. I paid over 70K over 8 years while only making roughly 32K annually, and care for my son personally 2.15 of the 4.3 weeks a month.
I can only assume that having always maintained a very active role with out dispute made the judge reconsider who pays what?! Remember these rules were made because of so many deadbeat parents and the children suffering for years, so that status quo is probably going to remain intact until proven different on a case by case basis. I know that thats contrary to our current judiciary guidelines of being innocent until proven guilty, but since we're victims of that circumstance, we have to roll with the punches. The rules are not perfect, but they are what they are, so while we work to perfect them, do what you can, and never give up. I didnt, and despite the very lopsided past, I stand on more level plain today and for the foreseeable future.
Good luck to all,
hi, my two daughters mother and I never married. And now she's back in her country. Where she has a new boyfriend, I had talk time with my daughters, the boyfriend has forbidden my kids from talking to me.what man tells a woman with children that are not histhat the children are forbidden to talk to their father? I love my children, I love my daughters. The mother, and I'm quoting her says that my daughters are happy after they talk to me on the phone! And that her boyfriend does not like that! He's upset at that.my daughters are in Vienna Austriaand I guess this is how Austrians or Austrian men act towards other men and their children.I am seeking legal help.
Ongoing Case. My wife and I separated in November 2014 after 7 years of marriage and our divorce is in process. When we wed she had a 7 yr old daughter who had never had a father in her life. Being raised by a wonderful step father myself I was eager to be the best dad I can possibly be. Over the past 7 years my daughter and I were inseparable and shared so many wonderful moments that her mother chose not to be a part of. During our process of divorce my ex continually told my daughter and myself that I would always be her daddy no matter what and that the discord between my ex and I would remain separate from my being a father to my daughter. For a time I was seeing my daughter and spending time with her and on the Friday before Christmas we had planned to all get together for me to give my daughter some gifts she was looking forward to.. The night before my ex sent me an unfriendly message to which I replied the same so on Friday morning she informed me that we would not be meeting after all and I would no longer be a part of my daughters life. I was forced to ship my daughter her gifts and spend the entire holiday season without getting to even speak to her on the phone. I am currently fighting this legally with every breath I have but it is an uphill battle in Texas. My chances of seeing my girl again are close to non-existent but I will not stop the fight regardless of cost. I am simply devastated by this and ashamed of the Texas law on this. I was the primary everything in my daughters life and I am frightened of the future for my girl going through her teen years without a father. She has cried and begged her mother to let us be together but her mothers selfishness is evidently more important than our daughters growth. My ex comes from money and has an unlimited financial resource while I am spending my retirement for the opportunity to at least "stand" in this case.
If anyone has any advice for this situation I welcome you input, I have no idea what to do or how to do it and I am really concerned. I am in the Houston area and need help.
Thanks for taking the time to read this.
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In May of 2013 my fiancé Chris, and his girlfriend at the time, had Chris's 4th/her 1st child. They were a couple, living together, and raising his 2nd child in Siloam Springs, Arkansas. His other two children lived with their mother, in Missouri.
Chris and she had a difficult relationship that was on and off for about 6 or 7 years. But, at the time she was pregnant, and their daughter Brooke was born, they were very much together. Chris was with her at nearly every Dr appointment. And was at the hospital with her for every second of labor and delivery. Chris signed the acknowledgment of paternity paperwork as soon as Brookie was born.
The weather was pretty bad the day Brooke was born. His son, 12 years old at the time, was home alone. Chris left the hospital long enough to check on his son. During the time Chris was gone, apparently his ex filled out the paperwork for Brooke's birth certificate, leaving Chris off the form, and listing father as "unknown". Which as I understand it, is paternity fraud.
Chris was not aware of his name being left off the birth certificate until Brookie's one week checkup appointment. At the appointment the nurse called for their child by her mother's last name. But Chris was told her last name was his name. When he questioned the fact that his ex's last name was called, he was given the excuse that she left him off Brooke's birth certificate so that she would be able to apply for, and receive a higher amount of financial aid, as she was intending to go to nursing school. Again committing fraud.
Not knowing what to do or what to believe, Chris ultimately trusted that she did not have ill intentions, and continued with the relationship to keep his family together. And supported her decision to go back to school, trusting that she would have the birth certificate corrected as soon as she finished her nursing program.
A few weeks later, his ex, informed Chris that in order for her to be able to afford to go to school, she would need to move in with her grandparents. Though Chris and his ex had been together for years, and just had a child together, and had been living together in a house owned by her grandparents, Chris and his son would not be allowed to live with his ex and Brooke at her grandparents home, because they were not married. So again being supportive, Chris and his ex agreed that a long distance relationship in which Chris would come back to live in the Kansas City, Missouri area, and his ex would move in with her grandparents would be the plan until she was out of school. They were to alternate weekends driving back and forth to see one another. And so he could still see Brooke weekly. From the first weekend on, it seemed to almost always be impossible to work out a plan with her to get together.
When Chris moved home, I threw him a "welcome home" party. Chris and I have known one another since elementary school. This instantly sent his ex into jealous rage mode as far as I was concerned. And it was as if she had placed a target on my back. She began prank calling me, sending rude messages, and making threats towards me. At first I tried very hard to understand that she was 4 hours away from her child's father/her significant other. I tried and tried to be cordial and nice. But, I will admit, as the prank calls, texts, and what-not continued, i became defensive and became verbally aggressive back.
Over the course of the next several months, Chris tried and tried everyday to make weekend plans to see his ex and Brooke. But, other than 1 weekend in September, 1 weekend in November, and 1 weekend in January, he was put off again and again. Always given a reason why "the plan" was not being stuck to.
His ex still had not moved in with her grandparents. She was almost never with Brookie. She was not visiting, or allowing visits. Yet all the while she was accepting money gram transfers, and giving guilt trip after guilt trip telling Chris he was not there for her and their child. But during the January visit, things became very clear.
She had been seeing a number of different men. She had photos of them in bed with her, and their daughter on her computer. She was very strung out on drugs. She had pawned almost anything of value to be able to support a new found gambling addiction. And if Chris was not afraid of kidnapping charges due to the fact that he was not on Brookie's birth certificate, he would have packed up his baby and got her out of there.
But, because of the facts being the facts, he did what he assumed was the next best thing. He called her grandmother and told her everything. He offered to move back and help her get her life back together. But, was not allowed. So he tried being as supportive as possible. But by this point, anger is officially setting in.
Chris became so overwhelmed and depressed by his feelings of not being able to protect his child that he could barely get out of bed. He lost his job after having an anxiety attack on his forklift. Yet, he continued to try and try at a solution with the mother of his child. Ultimately Chris has had a stress induced seizure disorder resurface from all of this mess.
It all finally became too much in February. She told Chris that she was going to bring Brooke to see him here in KC. She spoke with him numerous times along the way. I even personally heard her acting as if she was trying to get Brooke to say Hi. But when she arrived, she pretended to be lost. Yet she wound up only blocks from our house. Chris went to meet her, and as he looked in the backseat under the blanket covering the car seat, he only found an empty seat. She had driven all this way without the baby.
After about a week of arguing back and forth, Chris finally gave up the idea that their relationship would ever be mended. He spent a few weeks getting his thoughts together. Then we decided that we had been through enough turmoil together, and always had each other's backs, that we must belong together.
In April, Chris and I went to Arkansas together. We were allowed to visit Brooke at her great-grandparent's house only. During this visit, we informed them of all the things we had offered to do for her mother to come to some sort of agreement with us as far as visitation. We offered to pay a significant amount of child support. We offered to pay for custody/visitation mediation. We even offered to drive the 4 hours each way to pick Brooke up and drop her off in exchange for a regular visitation schedule. And if she continued to deny him, we had already spoken to an attorney who we intended to hire.
The visit went well. Everyone got along. There were no arguments. No problems whatsoever. The great-grandfather even helped Chris swab Brooke's mouth for a DNA test kit that we had purchased. On the last day of our visit, we had started making plans to come back one month later for Brooke's 1st birthday. We were going to bring all 5 of our other children. And we were going to have a birthday party for her.
May rolls around, it is one day before we are scheduled to leave for our visit. We have rented hotel rooms. Booked a rental car. Bought hundreds of dollars worth of gifts and party decor. And we are informed, not by the child's mother or her great-grandparents, that they took Brooke to Texas for the weekend. And when we questioned, all Chris got from his ex was an "I'm sorry".
So, we decided, no more waiting, no more trusting, no more attempts to reach an agreement between adults. We went to our bank. We got a signature loan. And we hired our attorney.
A few weeks after hiring our lawyer, we found out Brooke's great-grandparents had legally adopted Brooke in a private adoption with her mother, the day after her 1st birthday. And because Chris hadn't registered with the putative father registry in Arkansas, his notification was not required. The fact that we had never heard of the putative father registry did not matter. And because we couldn't prove that Chris signed the acknowledgment of paternity. Because it would be in His ex's medical records which she, of course, wasn't going to release, we were screwed. And his daughter had been legally kidnapped.
It was at this point that I finally became one ticked off girlfriend! I researched, and researched, until I couldn't research anymore. And I found that this sort of thing happens all the time! Women give away children that the father wants. And there's little to nothing the fathers can do about it. So I decided to try to do something about it. I started YES DADDY. A parent's/children's rights organization. Because Brookie should have the right to be with her father who wants her.
Since finding that the adoption has happened, Chris and his other three children (all of which live with us full time now) have been allowed to see Brooke one weekend in September. Myself and my children were not allowed to go. They had to stay at the great-grandparent's house. And his ex made it clear to Chris that we would never be able to afford to fight them long and hard enough to win. She said their lawyer told them in would cost us in excess of $30,000 to fight them and win his rights to his child. And the only way he would ever have his daughter is to move back with her. In the same house he left. Because she never did move in with her grandparents or go back to school. And they could just be a family again and all the papers would just go away.
The great-grandmother actually told Chris, that the adoption was only done because of me. And they don't like what they've seen of me. But no matter who he dated, they wouldn't know them. Therefore, they couldn't be trusted with Brooke. But acknowledges the fact that Chris is an amazing father. And would lay down his life for his children. And also states they still allow her mother to make all the parental decisions for Brooke's life. Even though she signed those rights away.
Now please note that since March, his ex has had photos of herself kissing three different men on public display. Has publicly been in a relationship with three different men. Though we are aware of more, those are the only ones we can prove. Two of which have been charged with felonies. One who recently stole her car. Then was arrested with drug paraphanelia (syringe to be specific), and just recently overdosed on heroin. One who admittedly has been violent. And the most recent one, who she herself has stated beat her, and she has become violent back with. Who was charged with possession of meth and firearms with altered serial numbers one year ago. And fraud last year has left her. So there will soon be another, I'm sure. But these men are allowed to be around Brooke. And we have pictures to prove it.
I am a nurse, with no criminal record. Who admittedly got mouthy a few times towards her. But I have never hurt a fly. I've only even ever had one speeding ticket. But I am apparently a bad person. So bad in fact that I can't be trusted with a child. Yet Brooke's mother was raised by her grandparents because her own mother, was incapable of caring for her. I have two children, whose father is deceased. My children are 14 and 16. Chris has 4, his 12 14 & 16 year olds live with us full time with only 1 visit from their mother in 7 months (by her doing, not ours). I would say I am better suited to be a parent than the nearly 70 year old people who have raised two generations of failed mothers.
Finally, in closing, according to our attorney the only hope we have is that because they continue to portray his ex as Brooke's mother. And continue to allow her to have her parental rights to Brooke. And have admitted so. That we have a chance at getting the adoption overturned. Then for another very large fee, we can try to fight his ex for custody or visitation. And that's just where we are at...
In 2011 my X wife take my kids and went to state of Washington. I have spent will over 80,000 and 3 year with not see or talking to my kids. Now the court wish me to start all over again. What can I do?
my 5 grandchildren were removed from my daughter. the dss, court, lawyers an gals were lying and corrupt. no attorney in my county will effectively fight them. I need help as they say grandparents have no rights. please someone help me. I have statements from a foster parent that the dss workers were selling them my grandchildren.
I've spent the last 2 years getting eaten alive by the family court system .... A guardian ad litem was assigned to our divorce case because I provided substantial proof of my ex-husband's alcohol addiction. Always the full-time caretaker, I took the role of custodial parent. For 2 years post-divorce my ex-husband engaged the children (11, 15 & 16) in all our disputes and created an overly permissive environment to coerce them to prefer his home over mine. A hate campaign was waged against me when I expressed disapproval of our son being allowed to have sleepovers with his girlfriend. Then I discovered the children were allowed to drink. I filed police reports and contempt motions because my ex-husband refused to comply with our completely UNENFORCEABLE divorce agreement. The same GAL was assigned to us - but she wouldn't speak to me because I couldn't afford her retainer.I lived the devastating effects of alcoholism and was terrified my boys were heading down that same path. My ex-husband works nights from 11pm-7am, so the kids spent most of their time at his home unsupervised. Contending with health issues and fearful of my children's safety, I had an emotional breakdown one year ago. I then lost my kids, my financial support AND my home. Threats and intimidation were used by the GAL to force to comply with a plan that has the children with me just 2 nights a week ... BUT I can't afford to pay child support and rent for a home that will accommodate overnights with the kids. My ex can afford a lawyer, I can't. 3 children no longer have a mother and NO ONE CARES.
About eight years ago, I realized that after 25 years, the marriage was ending. I brought up the subject and suggested taking a half a year to examine possibilities, but that it was likely going to end in divorce. In a week's time, he had hired an attorney, seperated the money, and met with the children to tell them this was my fault. He moved out and after finding a new place to live, the lawsuits began, and haven't ended for ten years. I initially suggested mediation, but after threatening me in each session, that option didn't work. Within a week or so of the ex moving to a new place, my son just wasn't in my apartment. There was no phone call, or informing me that he was gone. And with the exception of one court mandated meeting in their offices, I didn't see him again for ten years. I'm an American citizen, but live in Israel, and apparently the courts work differently. The judge bought whole heartedly the picture painted of me that I was supposedly a workaholic who cared only for work, and not about my children. I had entered a PhD program the previous year after a family decision, and which I have since finished. I was painted as caring more about that than the children. Anything positive that I did with my life was portrayed both to the courts and to the children as selfish and negative. Their father told them constantly, that if I cared about them, I would sell my car, drop out from the educational program, etc. My love was made contingent on my life choices, so that if I lived my life as I best saw fit, it supposedly meant that I didn't care about my children.He soon brought the entire local community into it. emails were sent through the entire community, accusing me of adultery (untrue) and of being mentally unstable. This was a religious community, and they jumped at the chance to support the poor righteous man against the wicked selfish sinner. Soon my children were invited to building events, on the condition that I don't attend. They were fed meals before our family meals so that they wouldn't be hungry with me, and if the children were seen talking and laughing with me, the children were given disapproving looks.This escalated to public events. When my son had an official event, the ex's friends would purposefully enter conversations that I was having with family members and speak to my family as though I wasn't there. Food was handed out to all present except to me. And everyone ate! My youngest son came up to me and said that he saw what they were doing and it wasn't nice, but he was so hungry, would I mind if he ate the sandwich... And so the conditioning and grooming of many people to treat me as less than a person began.
At my son's rehearsal dinner for his wedding (7 blessings feast), the ex's relatives again spoke to my parents and siblings as though I wasn't standing there, and wouldn't respond when I asked them questions. When I finally realized that it was purposeful and went to ask them about it, they literally ran across the room as though chased by a ghost. There are few truly great moments in life, and these people went out of their way to make sure I wouldn't enjoy mine.During the court judgements, the judge's wife lodged a domestic abuse charge against the judge. So I had an abuser judging my case. His pronouncements were so one sided and extreme that I filed an appeal to the district court, which overturned the worst of the rulings, especially the one where either side could buy whatever they wanted and charge the other side half, without that other ex-spouse's consent (or knowledge). However, in those three months, until the reversal of that judgment, the ex spent $20,000 and charged me half. When I didn't have the ten thousand dollars, he was able to put liens on my bank account, impound my car, and take property from my home equal to the value owed. During this point, I pleaded with my daughter to stay with where I placed her for my two week doctoral studies program, because the judge had said I had to pay the ex $2000 for the ten days if I attended the program. It was the only time that I pushed for my side with the children. And while I was attending the program, she attempted suicide. The ex didn't notify me until my custody days had passed, and then didn't allow me to speak to her during his custody days. Likely she believes that I didn't care about her enough to even call.At that point I decided that the children needed to stay alive, even if it meant losing contact with them. Their right to live had to come first. I fought every court battle for custody. He sued me three times for custody and it remained joint. But my daughter left to live there, again not telling me. After a few months, the remaining son felt the pressure, and he also left without telling me, and again their father did not inform me where he was. I did go to my son's school to speak to him, but he was shaking so badly, I saw there was nothing I could say to him. The courts didn't do anything, although he was young. And eventually awarded custody to the father! b/c the child was living there. Without taking into account the instigation that caused him to live there.Now the father had sole access to the children and the brainwashing began in earnest. One son told me that he read every court transcript. It was then I realized the extent of the pressure on the children.The ex wrote to all of my friends and tried to woo them away from me, and did so with my own parents as well. He would tell them that I had no friends, no one liked me, and even community leaders wouldn't speak to me. I asked one of the named leaders, and they said they'd never said such a thing. No matter, the impressions were being made. I received a phone call from a teacher who asked me if I was the 'biological mother', as if I had no other role in their life. The children weren't isolated from me by their father alone, rather he consolidated entire communities to join in the brainwashing of the children.The daughter who had attempted suicide was the only child who saw what he was doing, and tried to maintain equal contact with us both. The ex called a family meeting and in the presence of the other children told her that she had to choose between all of them or me. Since that time, she hasn't spoken to me in any significant way in about 5 years.The daughter who married at the time of the divorce, didn't tell me when she was pregnant, and didn't allow me to see my first two grandchildren. After about three years, she said I could see them, with no explanation, and I have seen them only if I go there to visit. I have not been allowed to take them out of her house or be alone with them. My daughter will not 'make time' for me to visit. I can only come over if she has no other plans. Her husband will say hello and goodbye, perhaps one sentence to be polite, and otherwise won't stay in the room if I am there.
The youngest son has a lot of discipline issues in school. He used to call me in the bathroom of his father's home and tell me that he was being brave, by talking to me there. (& he was). His teachers at his school told him that I didn't love him. He & I made a pact, that we will ask each other if we love each other, and we will only believe what each of us tells the other, no matter what other people tell him I feel about him. He didn't tell me about his Bar Mitzvah. I decided that if some day when older, he would realize that he hadn't invited his mother to his Bar Mitzvah, it would be guilt that he could never change. So I found one celebration in synagogue that I attended. I came over at the end to congratulate him. He became extremely nervous, and kept looking around, couldn't speak with me for even 30 seconds, he was so agitated that his father would see him speaking to me. I insisted that I take him out for a Bar Mitzvah dinner, and he came. But he wouldn't walk back with me, b/c people might see him with me, enjoying himself. At least, he will remember that I celebrated with him at his major life event. I have a friend near his school. She has extended an open invitation to him, and every so often he will visit her. He asks her basic questions about me- if I am a good person, what I do with my life, if I care about him. She has said, it is as though all memory of me has been eradicated, and he is struggling to know who his mother is. There are times when we have been in contact, and then it is regular and loving. The father ultimately finds out each time, and puts an end to it.As the children have become adults, they too perpetuate the patterns of the ex. The long lost son who I hadn't had contact with for ten years, had reestablished contact with me as he moved out of the father's home. For about a year and a half, we saw each other every week, and spoke by phone weekly as well. It was natural and close. He married over the summer, and stopped speaking to me. He hasn't told me why, and nothing happened even remotely, b/c I am so careful to make sure they would have no excuse to be angry with me. However, again the contact simply stopped dead. Recently, a cousin of mine came to town, and the kids wanted to meet her. We had a family dinner at a restaurant, and he spoke to everyone there, except me. He ignored me as though I didn't exist, just as I experience from the ex, the ex's friends and family. Also my son's new wife, ignored me as well. The circle of people recruited to abuse me continues to expand, and makes it easier for those in the circle to justify their own poor behavior, b/c everyone does it.I see patterns of emotionally abusive behavior, and immature emotional problem solving in my boys. I feel helpless to help them mature well. They have lost the concept of respecting and honoring their mother. They don't seek the emotional bond with me. They don't consider including me in their life. At this point, reconsidering that the father has misrepresented the situation and abused their trust, and that I love them dearly, would require changing their view of themselves as a person, and how they understand the world. It seems bleak. Yet I keep trying, take the insults, and keep the connection at a friendly low level. But realistically, there is an entire social system dedicated to them staying out of contact with me, and I don't see that any one of them will have the emotional strength to leave the circle of abuse. They don't realize that the abuse isn't directed only against me, but rather, they are participating in the abuse of themselves. I love them dearly.
Have any of you had to deal with the States of Utah and Texas ?I got divorced in 2002. My x-wife and two son's ages 14 and 8 at the time moved to Texas where my son's mother is from. My son's are now 26 and 19 years old. After two years I took her back to court account I could never have my parent time ( I had joint legal custody and was to have 10 weeks per year parent time). The Commissioner certified my x in contempt of court, we were ordered to get a special master. My x dissconected her phone. I haven't talked to or seen our two son's in eight years. After all this time ORS says that on eleven dates between 2004 and 2005 I didn't pay support. I went to an adjudicative hearing and showed on those eleven dates I had EFT'S from my account to hers. The woman from ORS said that was not proof of payment, she wants copies of the " checks" with my ex wife's signature on the back. What doesn't she understand about electronic funds transfers ? Off to 3rd District Court to clear my name ! ( $ 6,170.00 ) What a JOKE !
Family Court Empowers a PedophileMy seven-year-old son is being pursued by a conniving pedophile, his maternal uncle, Mikhail Angelovskiy, with tacit but significant help from the New York State Court System, particularly the Family Court. My son is prevented from living me and was left in the custody of his mother, Yuliya Angelova, despite my son's video-recorded report, offered to court for my divorce trial, of being hit by his mother in anger and despite his having developed diabetes after two years of living with her. Yuliya Angelova often left my son with her parents, who started screaming at him once they finally captured him, despite my asking Yuliya Angelova to let me care for the child instead.Mikhail Angelovskiy intensified his maniacal pursuit of my son in May-June 2014, when my parenting time with my son was suspended due to Yuliya Angelova's frivolous petitions brought in New York State Family Court in Nassau County and the consequent temporary order of protection. These petitions were dismissed "due to failure to state cause of action". These petitions were drafted by Mikhail Angelovskiy who was obviously doing his part to help the legal cartel in Nassau County to frame me for arrest.But Mikhail Angelovskiy's primary goal is unimpeded access to my son, a defenseless child, whom he even chased once in this child's own home. My son has described this chase to me: he escaped unwanted company by going to his mother's room and locking the door. My son has told me that this incident seemed like a "war" to him. Most likely, my seven-year-old simply has no better word to describe how he felt about it. But my son's choice of words makes it clear that he perceived Mikhail Angelovskiy's intentions to be hostile. Mikhail Angelovskiy is acting like a predator towards a defenseless child without any remorse for the harm which this child has already suffered as a result of Mikhail Angelovskiy's scheming.During the family-court-ordered interruption of my parenting time, Mikhail Angelovskiy came to my son's home very often and tried to inure my son to invasion of his personal space. Mikhail Angelovskiy exploited my son's inability to stop watching TV and sat unusually close to the child, while perspiring noticeably, as my son told me later on. Mikhail Angelovskiy has a history of psychological problems. None of this has ever happened to my son until Family Court has interrupted my parenting time with him.When my parenting time has resumed in early July 2014, Mikhail Angelovskiy's visits to my son's home have decreased. But, on two occasions Mikhail Angelovskiy had his mother, Galina Angelovskaya, had taken the child with them for a car ride, even without telling the mother. Galina Angelovskaya is holding onto her "job" of being my son's "babysitter", despite my objections and despite availability of the before/after-school program. The first such car ride with Mikhail Angelovskiy required interruption of my son's last day of summer camp, as he told me, and he was unhappy about it. My son was taken to visit his grandfather in the hospital. It is unclear why this "family" visit could not wait until the mother returned home in the afternoon. The most likely explanation is that Mikhail Angelovskiy was following another pattern of pedophile behavior: find ways to have time alone with the child.If Mikhail Angelovskiy were allowed to continue taking my son on these car rides, then, most likely, Mikhail Angelovskiy would eventually be take my son to see other pedophiles. Mikhail Angelovskiy seems obsessive in his behavior and had no prior interest in children. I suspect that some acquaintance had suggested pedophilia to Mikhail Angelovskiy.Mikhail Angelovskiy's mother, Galina Angelovskaya, played her part in this abuse. Since brainwashing my ex-wife, with help from Mikhail Angelovskiy, to break up our family, Galina Angelovskaya used her time as my son's "babysitter" to try brainwashing the child to avoid contact with me, both on telephone and in person. Once my son even had told me that they convinced him that it is alright to hate me, the father, only one day per week. They called it a day of "opposites". They did not care, of course, that such games teach the child to accept absurdity. Galina Angelovskaya neglects the child's hygiene, teaching the child unclean habits. Galina Angelovskaya persistently invades the child's privacy in the bathroom, despite the child's objections. Galina Angelovskaya is actively facilitating the pedophile Mikhail Angelovskiy's pursuit of my son by helping the pedophile to lower the child's inhibitions and to isolate the child, from the father and from peers, thereby creating a need for contact which the pedophile will try to exploit. Thus Galina Angelovskaya is helping Mikhail Angelovskiy to pursue well-known patterns of pedophile behavior.When my son asks Galina Angelovskaya whether she thinks that Mikhail Angelovskiy will become normal if my son gives in to his desires, Galina Angelovskaya now replies "I don't know", perhaps pretending to misunderstand the question, as my son has told me. The truth is, Galina Angelovskaya simply does not care. Several years ago, when Galina Angelovskaya was no longer my son's nanny, Yuliya Angelova has told me that Galina Angelovskaya suffered from depression, over her son, and was counseled by a psychologist. Galina Angelovskaya still suffers from psychological illness as she fails to clean her home, my son reports to me that it is filthy when he is taken there. Most likely Galina Angelovskaya is using her "job", as a "babysitter", to obtain some government benefits, given to care-takers, and, in the meantime, takes out her frustration, over her own wayward son, by helping that maniac to pursue my son. Yuliya Angelova also tried to scam me for "babysitting" fees supposedly paid to Galina Angelovskaya. So Galina Angelovskaya is holding my son in her clutches partly for money and partly out of malice and the courts, where I have presented my cases, have information about this but allow the abuse to continue.My son has told me recently that Galina Angelovskaya has been compelling him, with threats, to talk to Mikhail Angelovskiy on telephone -- another use of her time alone with the child. From my son's words, Mikhail Angelovskiy stopped visiting my son's home in early autumn 2014. Perhaps my post in December 2013 and in May 2014 have attracted attention to him and such people docnot like being noticed for who they really are. Since May 2014, I can no longer find this Mikhail Angelovskiy's facebook profile which contained a photograph of him with an abnormally forced smile.Nevertheless, Mikhail Angelovskiy still tries to pursue a relationship with my son, now on telephone. My son is compelled, by Galina Angelovskaya, to report to Mikhail Angelovskiy the content of my son's conversations with me and Mikhail Angelovskiy presents all my remarks negatively in an attempt to antagonize the child towards me, as my son has reported to me. Mikhail Angelovskiy even tried to use such alienation agenda as an excuse to lure the child to his home, saying that, if my son wants to talk about it more, he can come to Mikhail Angelovskiy's home. The sad irony of a psychopath pretending to be a therapist is absurdity typical of Mikhail Angelovskiy. Pedophiles, like most psychopaths, care little for truth or reason and show no remorse; Mikhail Angelovskiy fits this pattern.Mikhail Angelovskiy has also tried to lure my son to his home on other occasions, all with help from his mother Galina Angelovskaya. My son has told me that, this autumn, when he was brought to Galina Angelovskaya's home, she had asked the child whether the child wants to go to Mikhail Angelovskiy's home. When my son had refused, she had interrogated him, for half an hour, about his reasons for refusal. My son told me, in his video-recorded report, that he was afraid to say to Galina Angelovskaya why he did not want to go to Mikhail Angelovskiy's home. If Mikhail Angelovskiy pursues the child like a predator pursues its prey, why would the child want to go to the predator's home? Another time my son described how, in that same incident, Galina Angelovskaya "convinced" him that Mikhail Angelovskiy is allegedly not such a bad person: Galina Angelovskaya has simply talked at my son for so long that he could not bear it anymore and had no choice but to agree with her opinion. On other occasions my son complained to me that he gets headaches because Galina Angelovskaya "talks all the time" (besides her screaming at members of her family).And with psychological intimidation from Yuliya Angelova and from Galina Angelovskaya, it is not wonder now that, on many occasions, my son was reluctant even to say hello to me on telephone. Many times out telephone conversations were interrupted abruptly and my son later explained that Galina Angelovskaya makes a hand gesture to signal the child to stop talking. My son also told me, on telephone, about Galina Angelovskaya, trying to distract him, and sometimes molest him, during his conversation with me.Our matrimonial judge, Rudolph E. Greco Jr., in Queens County, was not concerned about this, despite Yuliya Angelova admitting at our divorce trial, in December 2012, that Mikhail Angelovskiy carried an incurable sexually-transmitted infection. In March 2014 Rudolph E. Greco Jr. had signed the judgment of divorce which was written by Yuliya Angelova's attorney, Mitchell J. Devack, leaving the child with Yuliya Angelova, despite having been well-informed about the child's suffering in her clutches.More recently, support magistrate Neil T. Miller, in Nassau County Family Court, was completely unconcerned about Yuliya Angelova's intent to have a diabetic teenager take my son from summer camp walk my son home, and then "watch" my son at home for a couple of hours, all without adult supervision. Instead, support magistrate Neil T. Miller has set me up for arrest without notice based on a broad and vague enforcement order which allows to frame me for arrest without first having a court hearing. Support magistrate Neil T. Miller surely knows about Mikhail Angelovskiy as the current child-support case is stored in the same court file as Yuliya Angelova's prior frivolous petitions before judge Robin Kent. Obviously, support magistrate Neil T. Miller is more interested in framing me up for arrest, for fabricated failure to obey payment order, than he should be concerned with the abusive filthy darkness which will come for my son should I disappear at the hands of police. Support magistrate Neil T. Miller cares much more about appeasing the local legal cartel which includes my ex-wife's attorney who has been exploiting my divorce for more than three years now in his quest to destroy me for my past and present complaints. Support magistrate Neil T. Miller has nothing to fear: judicial immunity protects him from legal liability and his advanced age allows him to handle any significant embarrassment simply by retiring.My child would not be abused had he been allowed to live with me and the courts, and the attorneys involved, know it. Judge Rudolph E. Greco Jr. had made a point of saying, during the trial, how concerned he was for my son and about holding my son's life in his hands, referring to custody. But the post-trial rulings by Rudolph E. Greco Jr. had shown his real intent towards the child which is anything but good. During one of the two hearings of Yuliya Angelova's family-offense petition in Nassau County Family Court, the attorney for the child, Patricia Manzo, had remarked "beautiful" about the child, and the judge, Robin Kent, had repeated "beautiful" without even having seen the child. It seemed like casting an evil eye, or some other bad omen, considering that the effect of their two-month involvement in my son's life was bad for my son.Family courts do little, if anything, to protect children of divorce, as recent books and documentary films show. Furthermore, the harm done to many child victims of family courts outweighs by much any benefits of whatever protection has been given to any other children. Eliminating one of the parents, usually the more caring one, whether by frivolous family-offense petitions or by fraudulent child-support litigation, makes the half-orphaned children vulnerable to all sorts of abusers and their single custodial parents, even if they desire to protect their children, usually do not have enough time to spend on their children. And various government-sponsored programs, like therapy sessions, like school social workers, care more about their own funding than about saving these children. In reality, nobody cares about other people's children, even judges and lawyers do not, regardless of what they say.Another dangerous deception is the pretense that the laws for payment of child support help children of divorce. Loving and caring parents support their children, financially and otherwise, even through divorce, without any laws and without any court orders. But uncaring and malicious parents hold their children hostage because they expect child-support payments from non-custodial parents. So, court-ordered child-support money is given to uncaring parents who use it to feed their malice and gluttony while the children are neglected and deprived of contact with the other parent. The state support collections unit receives federal rewards for each dollar transacted, and for each non-custodial parent sent to jail for "criminal non-support", even if convictions are fraudulent, judges and support magistrates are rewarded indirectly. But the children, in whose name this is all done, are harmed by neglect and by predators. Family/divorce courts do not care about children. Whether by intent or negligence, family/divorce courts make children vulnerable to third-party abusers by removing one or both parents from children's lives.-Vladislav RuchinskyBrooklyn, NYDecember 19th 2014
Scheme To Imprison and Murder by New York State Family Court in Nassau CountySupport magistrate Neil T. Miller, of New York State Family Court in Nassau County, has set me up for arrest without notice by issuing an order of disposition with broad enforcement provisions, including arrest without notice. Neil T. Miller protracted my child-support case for six months, since my date of filing on May 27th 2014, using various devices. On November 24th 2014, after a full month of post-trial deliberation, Neil T. Miller has issued a money judgment against me, in the sum of $10,719, and according order of disposition, but without specifying either method or time of expected payment and, with them, included a factually distorted Findings of Fact and Decision which suddenly has ascribed to me a psychological condition, "depression", which I do not have. Giving or sending money for payment is useless now because it will take the Support Collections Unit several weeks to update my account and the Support Collections Unit had already withdrawn over $8000 from my bank account in May 2014 but have not credited me for it yet.The broad enforcement provisions of Neil T. Miller's order of disposition, under New York State law (CPLR Article 52 §5250), allow me, the debtor, to be arrested "Upon motion of the judgment creditor without notice". So the creditor, Yuliya Angelova, only needs to file a petition in that court, without even notifying me, and an order will be sent automatically to law-enforcement, such as the sheriff or the local police department, to have me arrested. I am unlikely to survive even brief incarceration due to reportedly brutal conditions in prisons and even in holding cells and due to my damaged health. And the attribution of "depression", although unfounded and false, will, nevertheless, make it easier for the prison authorities to lie about what will have happened to me in their custody. Our legal system is so large that it is practically impossible to detect all the falsities, even some monstrous ones, much less to prevent or correct them all. So, during the next several weeks, until the Support Collections Unit credits me properly, I am at significant risk of arrest without notice, and consequent death in prison either at the hands of the guards or of violent inmates.Neil T. Miller's "Findings of Fact and Decision" distorts some of my testimony to the point of absurdity, characterizes my testimony as "less than convincing", and ignores most of the evidence which I had supplied with my extensive written pleadings and rebuttals. In his "Findings of Fact and Decision" Neil T. Miller also invites further petitions from my adversary, my ex-wife, Yuliya Angelova, who would not miss such an opportunity to seize what little remains of my funds. Yuliya Angelova, given her words and actions towards me, also would not miss an opportunity to have me arrested and have me suffer the worst treatment in prison. Nobody will check whether additional requirements of CPLR §5250 are met in my case, nor will I have any chance to read Yuliya Angelova's petition prior to my arrest. I am certain that I will not have a chance to do anything at all after my arrest because I will not survive it: prisons are dangerous and prisons have been used to murder people in secret.The intent now is to have me disappear in prison, like it was with Yuliya Angelova's frivolous petitions against me in Nassau County Family Court, filed on May 5th-6th 2014, and like it was with arrears imputed on me retroactively by court order in August 2012. Such monstrous mischief becomes easier to whitewash with a priori fabricated psychological condition. If I am deprived of freedom, my published complaints about prior abuse can be removed and, most likely, never reposted, and my death will be very silent, like those of most other victims of family court. Neil T. Miller has hinted at my past complaints in his "Findings of Fact and Decision": he has mentioned my two-years-prior request to have my ex-wife's former attorney disqualified, which is discussed in one of the pendente lite orders from my divorce case. To mention such an unrelated item for no reason in a child-support matter is much too chatty for such an experienced judicial officer as Neil T. Miller, especially given both parties' self-representation now. The most obvious reason for reference to such an unrelated matter is that Yuliya Angelova's divorce attorney, Mitchell J. Devack, is part of Neil T. Miller's professional network, given that Mitchell J. Devack's office is in central Nassau County. This is Neil T. Miller's way of making other jurist readers aware that I am being persecuted by Mitchell J. Devack's professional network rather than by some individual judge or attorney.Mitchell J. Devack had hinted very clearly, early in my divorce, that he had been exploiting my divorce in connection with my complaints about my former employer, Brookhaven Science Associates which operates the Brookhaven National Laboratory, located in central Suffolk County. I had also complained about their funding agency, the U.S. Department of Energy. In autumn of 2013 I had learned that the U.S. Department of Energy exerts financial influence on the legal profession: it hires many attorneys and spends much money on private law firms. The legal profession in the U.S., being heavily self-regulated, controls the courts and uses the courts mostly for profit. In autumn of 2013 I had also learned that the fraud, which I had witnessed at Brookhaven Science Associates, is endorsed by some officials in that federal agency. I have published my complaints about adverse treatment by that employer, reports about fraud there, and reports about subsequent abuse in the legal system during my divorce. Divorce proceedings are, nowadays, exploited to retaliate against persons, even against attorneys, for professional reasons, see the case of Colbern Stuart in California and the case of Leon Koziol in New York.For Mitchell J. Devack's network, it is most desirable to kill me because they will not suffer any consequences and because my death will allow them to discredit all of my complaints to date. They will either label me as insane in some bureaucratic document or they will discredit me, such as by making some absurd posts on the Internet and by purporting me to be the author. They will even have time to find someone to gain access to my blogs and to remove them. In my situation, such mischief would be the fraudsters' winning move. Something similar had even happened, several years ago, to Nancy Shaefer, the late former U.S. Senator from Georgia who was persecuted after she had exposed abuses of children taken in the custody of Child Protective Services. The memory of Nancy Shaefer and of her husband, who had worked with her on the documentary of that abuse, lives in the posts of many sympathizers but her original political website is no longer accessible.In April 2014 I had complained officially about Mitchell J. Devack to Queens County District Attorney, upon referral by New York State Attorney General, because Mitchell J. Devack had unnerved me with his letters to our divorce judge in long anticipation of the judgment of divorce. Queens County District Attorney had whitewashed my complaint against Mitchell J. Devack and had sent me the response on May 1st 2014, only a few days before Yuliya Angelova brought her frivolous petitions against me. I had not made any further official complaints about Mitchell J. Devack after May 1st 2014. Yuliya Angelova represented herself in family court, although she relied much on her brother, Mikhail Angelovskiy, especially to draft her documents and exhibits.But it looks like Mitchell J. Devack has not really left me alone. Yuliya Angelova had not really discharged him, via notice of discharge, but she wrote unofficially that she represents herself in my appeal of our divorce judgment. This misrepresentation caused much confusion. This confusion was clarified only in September 2014 with a letter from Mitchell J. Devack to the Appellate Division Second Department, after I had understood that Yuliya Angelova is trying to evade service of my appeal documents, and then by response from the court attorneys acknowledging the change. Why such elaborate and unusual diplomacy rather than simple notice of discharge? Most likely Mitchell J. Devack has not given up my case yet. Yuliya Angelova had tried to fool me about her representation even on July 2nd 2013. But Mitchell J. Devack alone would not be able to extort me, he can only do it with support from other jurists in any court in which he can litigate against me or guide someone to litigate against me, like Yuliya Angelova in family court this year.In May 2014, the possibility of my arrest was significant given the absurdly vague temporary order of protection which was issued immediately with those ex-parte petitions. The May 5th 2014 family-offense petition, and the petition to stop my parenting time with my son, both contained even more exaggerated allegations of psychological problems, like "schizophrenic thought patterns" (whatever that is) and were drafted by Yuliya Angelova's psychologically disturbed pedophile brother, Mikhail Angelovskiy who has been pursuing my seven-year-old son since my separation from my ex-wife. Mikhail Angelovskiy has been persuading my ex-wife to divorce since my son's birth. After my many public and private complaints, constrained by strict gag orders of the updated temporary order of protection, and upon my filing motions to dismiss, judge Robin M. Kent had reversed her initial position on June 27th 2014 and had dismissed both petitions for "failure to state cause of action" and had vacated all orders of protection.On May 27th 2014, after the first hearing with judge Robin M. Kent, I had also applied to down-modify my child-support obligation, due to lack of income and medical problems and an initial hearing was scheduled for June 27th 2014 with the support magistrate Neil T. Miller, to follow the June 27th hearing with judge Robin M. Kent. In the middle of June 2014, Yuliya Angelova had filed a cross-petition against me for violation of order of child support and we were to plead them on June 27th. On June 27th 2014 we had brought our court-ordered documents and Neil T. Miller established that incarceration is not being requested. Then Neil T. Miller asked me twice whether I want to be referred "Project Support" and, the second time, being tired from the morning hearing and from the residual stress of having been terrorized with frivolous petitions, I agreed. Both Yuliya Angelova and I had also agreed to be referred to mediation. So our mediation, and the next hearing, were scheduled for August 20th 2014. Neil T. Miller said that he will not even have our exhibits scanned or reviewed until August 20th so I started worrying that my exhibits would not be admitted.Having spoken with Project Support staff in the afternoon of June 27th 2014, I had understood that Project Support will not help me. I was exhausted from work to oppose Yuliya Angelova's frivolous petitions in May and June 2014 and Project Support assumes adequate health of its clients. So I had postponed my participation in Project Support.In July 2014, only a few days after my parenting time had resumed, Yuliya Angelova had threatened me with another interruption of my parenting time and informed me of her intention to place my diabetic son in the sole care of a diabetic teenager, apparently risking the child's safety, likely in order to make me panic. In panic I would cause cancellation of my son's summer camp attendance very early which would entitle Yuliya Angelova to a refund of the tuition money and allow her to charge me a higher rate for her mother's "watching" my son at home. I had spent a couple of days on this issue: trying to obtain more information, searching for feasible alternatives, and, finally, reporting the problem to Nassau County District Attorney and asking them to caution the culprits. After that issue I tried to prepare for the August 20th hearing with support magistrate Neil T. Miller, analyzing and responding to Yuliya Angelova's false and wide-ranging accusations and trying to understand the almost disorganized pile of exhibits attached to her violation petition. I had presented my analysis as a motion to be heard on August 20th 2014, with all of my exhibits numbered and attached.On August 20th 2014 Yuliya Angelova and I had tried mediation in court for a couple of hours. But it was obviously a waste of time as Yuliya Angelova tried to litigate against me to the mediator as we described our case to him. Mediation has been promoted as a constructive alternative to litigation in divorce and even very intelligent attorneys were fooled, see the case of Colbern Stuart. I felt exhausted and frustrated at the end of that mediation session. Then support magistrate Neil T. Miller had us both agree to have our exhibits admitted but denied the rest of my motion as attempt to litigate the issues before the trial. And then Neil T. Miller had scheduled our fact-finding hearing for October 1st, instead of holding it immediately, and refused to tell me whether any documents need to be prepared for the fact-finding hearing. In September and October 2014 I worked against deadlines to perfect appeal of my judgment of divorce and some obstructions came: Yuliya Angelova, with help from school social worker, had blocked my communication with staff at my son's school. In October 2014, Yuliya Angelova neglected my son's influenza vaccination and then neglected his dental check-up, both of which took up much of my time to negotiate with her and then to arrange. In the meantime, the fact-finding hearing on October 1st was continued on October 14th, due to confusion about the procedure for the hearing and about re-numbering of some of the submitted exhibits and due to Neil T. Miller's interspersing fragments of hearing for my case with hearings of other cases. Neil T. Miller, having relabeled those exhibits, never even referred to those exhibits by any number or label. Those discussions were merely a protraction of my case, allowing the debt to accumulate.The fact-finding hearing required one more appearance, on October 24th, mostly due to many issues having been raised by Yuliya Angelova and due to some additional questions from support magistrate Neil T. Miller. In late October 2014, I had considered the accumulation of his child-support arrears during this long process and submitted a motion to stay the orders for child support pending final disposition of the case. Neil T. Miller had tried to discourage such a submission as emergency motion on October 24th, so I had submitted it on November 3rd, as a motion without request for appearance, having learned that the case was to be contemplated until November 24th 2014. I also searched for another endocrinologist for my son, for second opinion, due to deterioration of my son's health. But Yuliya Angelova has blocked my efforts to take my son to another doctor, although she complained about the driving distance to the current endocrinologist. On December 1st Yuliya Angelova has started to restrict my telephone contact with my son unreasonably and interfering persistently. The possibility of framing me up for arrest is a very plausible explanation for Yuliya Angelova's current behavior: she is postponing the second opinion until, she hopes, I will die and then she can simply take my son back to endocrinologists at NorthShore LIJ. And telephone contact is being disrupted to alienate my son towards me in advance of my disappearance -- this way my seven-year-old son will not ask about me. Yuliya Angelova has also renewed encouraging my son to watch TV/video as much as possible, knowing that such excessive viewing impairs the child's memory and mental focus.On December 1st 2014 I received the money judgment, the "Findings Of Fact" and orders. My motion was denied supposedly because I have not appeared in court, despite the motion not asking for an appearance. All of my petitions were denied and my arguments discredited by distortion. Neil T. Miller's "Findings of Fact" are mostly a condensed and distorted paraphrase, spanning 17 pages, of written and oral testimony, concluded with four pages of his opinion on our testimony, without any specific explanation of his conclusions.Family Court, together with its law-enforcement partners, is one of the most dangerous institutions in our society now -- it is obscure but ruthless. It is a quasi-criminal court without any of the constitutional protections given to litigants in criminal court. So allegations of crimes can be fabricated there without any accountability -- Family Law provides for it. The waiting rooms are packed with litigants, nearly half of them having been summoned against their will on bogus charges. Hearings can proceed in secret. Even if observers are allowed, Neil T. Miller's breaking up a hearing into small fragments makes it frustrating both for litigants and for observers. During some of my several appearances in Nassau County Family Court, I have seen people being led through the halls in handcuffs by court police. There seems to be more police in Nassau County Family Court than in Supreme Court, either in Queens County or in Nassau County. The police in Nassau County Family Court wear bullet-proof vests, even inside the court building, even despite metal detectors at the entrance. I have not seen bullet-proof vests in Queens County Supreme Court. Even police patrolmen, either in NYC or in Nassau County, do not usually wear bullet-proof vests.Family Court is one of the signs that our legal system is taking on some of the characteristics of the police state in Nazi Germany. Family Court, with its connections to law enforcement, is like gestapo: militarized police which can arrest a person under any pretext. There were even "kangaroo" courts for expedient trials under the Nazis. Hitler's government had deceived the German public with monetary rewards and with promises of security in exchange for trust and obedience. Once the public had no effective ability to resist, the Nazi government started building many prisons, arresting many people, and even started a program to mass-murder children deemed undesirable, Action T4. The ideology is superficially different but the underlying motivations are the same: the fraudsters want to be the masters and to live very well. The prison-industrial complex in the U.S. and family court are alarming similarities to that nightmare.When I searched, in vain, for an attorney who could help me negotiate my situation with Mitchell J. Devack in December 2013, one attorney, who had suffered abuse in family court, had shared his experience with me, "they will try to break you", and had told me that it would be easiest for me to follow my adversaries' desires as he had done, despite significant negative consequences. But that attorney's situation was different: he had not complained publicly about fraud in our government. The victims of Hitler's government also followed the path of least resistance which led them and their children to their deaths. One recent example illustrates additionally my adversaries' dishonesty: my ex-wife's attorney and I had both requested the transcript of the divorce trial and it was supposed to be sent to him and a copy forwarded to me. But that attorney had provided me, instead, with a printout not signed by the court reporter. Having been preoccupied with other issues earlier, I had understood the problem with the transcript only when I needed it for my appeal and it had taken much additional effort to obtain the signed transcript and have it settled in the little time remaining. I have not posted anything on the Internet since May 2014 and have not started any further lawsuits against Mitchell J. Devack or the rest of that cartel, having been intimidated by the possibility of another family-offense petition with gag orders. But it is obvious now that I am still being targeted by that cartel, now surreptitiously. Nothing good can come of making any agreements, even tacit ones, with such people. They are just as dishonest and ruthless as the Nazis.-Vladislav RuchinskyBrooklyn, NYDecember 12th 2014
I will try to make this as short as possible, but there is so much more. I had been a full time stay at home mom, and wife, to a physically, verbally and emotionally abusive NPD'd man for 10 yrs (12 together). We had 4 children together. Now they are (f)13, (f)15, (f)16 and (m)17. I also have a 25 yo son from a previous marriage. My first husband and I co-parented with joint custody after our divorce, without any issues, so I was completely unprepared for the wrath of destruction and chaos of my 2nd divorce. Since 2nd divorce in 2008, my children have always lived with me. I have a lifetime RO against my ex to stay away from me, but I never applied it to the children. He moved 4 hrs away and would call the children, make plans but then not show up, car problems, gas, work, all excuses. I and a family member brought the children TO him (4 hours away) to help w this issue. Kids missed their dad, and although abusive to me, he hadn't been to them. He came back to the area 1&1/2 yrs later. His abuse to me continued through false claims of abuse, calls to DCF, calls to police, even to internet provider. Filing for custody, then not showing up.. it goes on and on. He re-married 8 months after our divorce was final. I thought the abuse would stop..it increased. He and new wife moved out of town, 6 months later both were incarcerated for abuse on HER (not his) 4 children. They were found guilty of lesser charges and released in 10 months. Moved back to this town in 2011. Hell since. She lost all parental rights to 3 of her 4. They got one of hers back and they have continued his "mission" to take mine from me. He had supervised visits which he didn't bother with for months (claiming expense)so we changed it to unsupervised. Then there was a concern about drug use so it went back to supervised. Again didn't bother, our son was in contact and meeting him secretly and wanted to live with him, started acting abusive to siblings, me and home. We again changed supervised to unsupervised (Sundays til 6 PM) for 3 girls, and allowed son (only) to live with dad in March 2014. Kids attitudes to me started changing w/in only a few visits. By May, he had them "walk out." He undermined my parenting to them, told them to not follow rules, children began 'transforming.' Became disrespectful, defiant, and hurtful. The 3 girls walked out (w instructions from ex) on May 15th. Stopped coming home, stopped answering my calls, more and more distant by THE DAY. After 4 weeks, middle daughter came home, other kids only talked to me to insult, accuse, swear at me, blame me for whatever they (HE) chose, accuse me of not loving them, only wanting them for child support (even though there were YEARS that he paid nothing). In August he filed for full physical residence. Kids threatened that if I made them come home, they would "trash" my house, run away every day, have me arrested by the end of the week. If I thought that son was tough "wait till you see what we do to you". It was horrible hearing the kids that were so different only months ago, speak to me this way. Ex told them they wouldn't have to go to counseling anymore if they moved there. Teenagers do not want their social lives interrupted by counseling.. but it was clearly needed. I told them I would agree to 50/50 when we are all ready, and they had to stay in counseling. My rationale was that through their counseling, they would 'see the light'. No.. he pulled them out of counseling almost instantly. I filed contempt, and hearing was last month (Nov 2014). I didn't adequately "prove" my case. Judge said I need to file to modify to change wording of "when we are ready" ( for 50/50 to start) to take effect immediately... BIG concern for me, considering the threats that my children made. I fear that making them come home (having had no counseling since they left) is only a recipe for disaster. One of their counselors said its like daughter is in a "cult". Re-writing history. Erasing me from their history, and their lives. Therapist has worked for 25+ yrs.. and has never seen a child change so abruptly and drastically. It's as though my children have 'forgotten' all their lives with me. Ex has now just filed for full physical residence again and has sent me text after text stating how he is bringing the children with him to tell the judge they want to live there.. how I am all evil, and ex is all wonderful. I am pro-se, and can not afford an attorney. I fear I will again not "prove" my case. I am completely heart broken, exhausted financially, and emotionally. I miss my kids, but they do not even speak like themselves anymore. They want nothing to do with me. The middle daughter that came home is still home and still visits over there, but they are pretty rough on her. They call her a traitor, and put her under tremendous pressure to "hate" mom. Ex is charming and lies through his teeth. Judge doesn't see this most of the time, because I am a wreck in court. There a long history with this man, and I am still very intimidated by him. I avoid at all cost, but now he has my children smack dab in the center of all this and it is just HORRIBLE.
Hello everyone. Every father in this country is in danger of being treated like a second class citizen. We have all being denied our God given rights, parental rights and constitutional rights all in the name of federal funding. Congress mandated to the a law to the several states telling them to make and enforce laws to get money from the father and the several states will receive federal funding. Also, the law allows the several states to charge interest on the one paying child support when he gets behind. The interest does not go to the child it goes to the state, and they spend it or use it any way it wants. The Social Security Act Title iv section d is the law that is the whole problem. Child Support Enforcement Division job is to force money out of fathers and they get paid through the federal funding. They have to make a policy and procedure and submit it to the governor and the governor approves the policy and procedure. Also,congress mandates that the state legislators and the senate must make and enforce laws in order for the several states to receive federal funding. The several states receives millions to hundreds of millions to deny rights, harass, oppress fathers. When we go to Court its not about "the best interest of the child," its all about the several states receiving money, keeping jobs and receiving a pay check. I recommend that every father get a copy of the constitution and I will post some law books that you can get to help you in fighting for your rights. You must get as many fathers as you can in your area and stand up for you rights together. A judge, lawyer or child support enforcement is not going to help you or protect your rights. I will post the books in a day or so. Fathers lets fight for our rights.
BLUF: Until I became a victim of the courts, I did not believe my Soldiers who would frequent my office with their stories of unfair treatment by the courts. I thought to myself, this does not happen in America!" Boy, was I wrong. Then God let me learn their pain the hard way; my wife abandoned our marriage with our two children. She filed multiple false complaints and had a restraining order placed on me. As a Soldier assigned to multiple locations over the years it was difficult to fight the court and attorneys. Result: I have not seen my former wife nor my two children for twenty years. She has evaded all communication and contact. I remarried a wonderful woman five years after the divorce and we've had four children. We so long to have relationships with my oldest children, but time and abuse by their mom has left them bitter and sour on relationships and family. Breaks my heart. As an Army chaplain I've attended several court hearings where the judge awarded an ex-wife (VERY WICKED MOTHERS AND WIVES) who were rewarded by the court while the court heavily penalized the husband upon divorce. Rationale of judge in every case: "As a Soldier you cannot provide a good and stable home for your children!" Unbelievable. I cried with all of them.
I have created a petition on the White House website - please sign!
Sentenced to 7 years in prison for support not owed. I was charged for 14 months before son was born, for the years I had coustody, for two women at the same time for the same son, one who happens to of never even babysitted my son.
Announcement of federal lawsuit Because Children Deserve a Legal and Just System of Law supported by the constitution.
My son was kidnapped with a fraudulent custody and protective orders signed by Gaudian ad litem GAL. and Judge. Child was told that his father threw him away and was abusive to him for years.
Courts have since ruled that the custody order and abuse were both invalid.
My son is now living with me but much harm has been done to him by no fault of his own. ...
A federal lawsuit is the only way to seek justice and protect your children from this kind of abuse, neglect and criminal cover-up, misconduct of our courts officials.
The State of Utah needs to change it's broken courts system and hold those who tread on us accountable for their actions.
This lawsuit will open the door for further class action lawsuits for the hundreds of other families who by no fault of their own have fallen victims of Utah's ignorance of our constitutional rights to freedom of religion and the right to raise our children, without fear of losing them for no reason but a bias, prejudice or religious reasons.
My contingency paid Attorney for this federal lawsuit has presented this letter (see attached link http://www.gofundme.com/paulfederallawsuit) to confirm the legitimacy of my case.
The money I am looking to raise is for transcripts, depositions and court filings only.
Click here to support FEDERAL CIVIL RIGHTS LAWSUITE, UTAH by Artisan Mantels
No rights for fathers in Washington state...Ive seen it but never doubted our legal system until yesterday when my son went to court for his visitation/child support order and was treated like a common criminal instead of a new/young father who wants to be a father to his son. He lives in Kansas and she lives in Washington (THEY lived in Kansas prior). His parenting plan was reasonable and fair for the situation of the distance and hers was pretty much sitting in court bashing him because he doesnt have experience with babies. He's paid her $500 a month and little ones medical since day 1, our family is not considered to be a part of little ones life, me and my husband, as grandparents have no rights in this state but thought that with the circumstances of distance that the court would somehow make us a part of little ones regular visitation because my son has to spend $800 on a plane ticket when he wants to see his son and that cant happen every month. Little one is 9 months now and I feel like there's time to get this changed??? Is there help?
I am the girlfriend of a Retired US Army Soldier. He proudly served 20 years of military service. His now former spouse was awarded sole physical and legal custody of his 2 minor children because CA said that he had been out of their lives while he served his Country. CA Family Law statutes state that a court must award joint physical & legal custody unless there is clear evidence of abuse or criminal activity. None of these existed (except police reports existed against the ex-wife for domestic abuse).
He went back to court to have custody modified and the judge refused to hear his evidence. Additionally, she was ordered to repay her half of the transportation costs, which she refused to do for over a year. She continues to violate the court order with regard to his visitation dates (she hides the girls or she refuses to put them on the plane to CO on time). She violates the court order regarding his phone & Skype communications with the girls. So until he can go back to court again, she gets away with doing what she pleases.
Courts continue to award mothers with custody regardless of their criminal activity or follow their own State Statutes.
My ex wife and i have been separated since 2009. it has always been difficult to bond with my daughter especially. i was removed from her upbringings and fact she was enrolled in a school out of town. playing varsity basketball at 12 years old. my ex wife was using basketball as mean to deny me time to bond with my daughter. she is playing every weekends and summer and winter. in fact, i didn't see her for 5 months. she block me from her phone and texts. she was told if she called me, she would lose access to her phone. i created a worksheet and started to document the amount of violations that was very helpful in court yesterday. i would love to attach it to this site to help other parent. if you need a copy. send me an email and i will forward a copy to you. this is a sample. it is an excel format. good luck.
It should be a crime when a court is gender biased and believes the female is the best parent! of course you cannot prove bias. I asked a state senator about changing the laws so the non-custodial parent would have the same rights as the custodial parent and I was told it had been tried and was determined to be "political suicide"
When a custodial mom who has been investigated for child abuse, one custodial child has been raped while in her custody, the same child attempted suicide shortly after and then her mom decided to take a "vacation" while the daughter was recuperating is still allowed to be the "custodial" parent, you know the legal system is completely broken!
it's a crying shame for non-custodial fathers like me to have to suffer with the agony of knowing there is absolutely nothing I can do to change the situation! the courts say "there is not enough evidence to warrant a change"
you would think common sense would prevail. unfortunately it does not!
I feel terrible for the fathers who need not suffer when they pay their support religiously and still get the shaft!
I had two girls by 21 with a mother that fMily was involed with the L.A GANG LIFE. Eevrybody knows that gangs run and are part of culture here, especially the Latino lifestyle. It's gangs run, call, dip, share almost everything from govt enties and agency's to the local neighbor hood park and even County of LA court systems. My self never ever been involed in gangs nor associated, I've never been arrested or have any type of criminal back round.
I just basically wanted the kids girls to grow up in my life sense the mother would tell me how her father killed himself on an overdose and was left to be raised by the mother alone. So that was my priority to be i there life's. That all changed when we split and she saw that I moved on. It got violent she was already on felony probation and the abuse I suffered before the the kids were born was to much to handle. I could only end are relationship and try my best to deal with her issues aginot me and be involed in my daughters life's.
That all came to an end when she was on drugs and wasnot thinking straight and tryed to have me setup to be killed in her own home all while she was on probation. That's just one incident then there was another time she hit me with the car in front of my mothers and after that action I was done with her being around and couldn't handle the abus and violence. I'm not used to it like her even though I'm a man I got to scared to deal with her. To her it's nothing she comes from a long life of violence and family issues that i didn't grow up with. So I went to court and was awarded custody and I had them 4 1/2 days out of the week. Well she didn't like that nor did her GANG related family threaten to (kill) make me disappear in the desert if I kept going to court and didn't get her involed in anymore legal obligations. So I wanted to keep my life I knew the LAPD couldn't protect me and plus sense I'm a man and she a woman the see me as weak man. Even when I went to go file a police report the day she violated the custody order the first day/week it was in effect they didn't even do shit!!!! Yet if It was the other way around they would of been kicking down doors to find me. So basically I was forced to walk away from the issue and can't be involed in my daugters life or it will cost me my life. But the courts don't see it as that they see me as a dead beat dad and now I'm probably going to jail sense I have over $100k in past due support not to mention my lisence is always suspended nobody will hire me to work sense I'm partially disabled, oh I forgot to mention I now suffer from PTSD AND DEPRESSION due to the years of harrass to and suffering from issues that nobody would be able to help me stand up and fight or correct. I'm mean try living a life day to day jobless on the streets at times in poverty i can't handle or deal with It anymore. I've been stripped of all my civil rights and protections that most citizens have. Not me I'm just a debit I owe to the state and nobody cares untill one day !!! When the day I decide to make things even and make it clear to the nation that child support laws are evil unfair and unjustly.
I live in the grace of my God Jesus and pray one day there will be somebody sent to help a broken man get fixed and at the same time help thoes who need help and are prescuted by laws that are bent on money evil and corruption! All these are acts of evil and corruption run threw the halls of County of LA Child support offices most of there employees at one time we're on programs that were run threw Welfare to Work programs and grants and there employees will always be involed in the Corruption of Gangs lifestyle as its in the lifestyle of being raised in Califorina.
In Los Angeles your either in a gang or part of one if not you die or die trying the law can't protect they can only watch you and try. You want to help me and get my story out just look into child support orders and u will find my case and my address
After 6 years and close to $1,000,000 in legal fees alone, I won a Parental Alienation case against my ex. 3 week trial and 32 witnesses later. The damage one parent can do, is unimaginable. Long story with all the key elements of an alienator. False claims to CPS. False claims to the police the list goes on and it's almost as if my ex, read a book on the typical way to alienate.
Six years ago, my then wife walked out on me and our three daughters. She stated plainly at the time that she did not want to be a wife or mother any longer. She went down a bad path of drugs and sleeping around for two years. In that time I and our daughters moved on. I got remarried, bought a house and became somewhat successful. After two years, my now ex-wife decided she wanted to get custody of our daughters, not to be a parent, but for the child support she would receive. Over the next four years, she made my family miserable. Mentally abusing my two younger daughters, poisoning them against my current wife. Dragging us to court every year on trumped up abuse charges that were proven false every single time. Refusing to co-parent with me on even the smallest things. It all came to a head this past summer. My ex-wife decided to keep our two youngest after their court appointed visiting time. She refused to a court official to follow the current order. The police refused to press any charges against her. The DA refused to move against her for any reason. I got nothing but the run around by every agency, even though I had black and white documentation for our children to be returned to my custody. Not a single person would enforce the court order. When I was finally able to have my day in court, in front of the same judge we had seen every single year, it was a total fiasco. The judge stated that I had proven my ex-wife lied under oath, proven her actions were based on revenge and not on what was best for our kids, proven that she did not use proper judgement in her own life let alone on what would be best for our children, proven that she has refused time and again to co-;parent with me, but that m ex-wife would be awarded custody of our children anyway. The judge's reason verbatim, "That's the way I want it." Four straight years I fought to do the right thing and it made no difference what so ever. As a result, my current wife has left me, I have to sell my house to pay the 15000$ lawyer bill that has been run up, and I am about to lose more than half my salary to child support. It shows me there is no justice in the courts for men. All my ex-wife has to do is throw a temper tantrum and abduct our children and instead of getting punished for wrong doing, she is rewarded and I get the punishment. It is wrong. I am a stand up guy. I have always done right by our kids and quite frankly by my ex-wife. I have no voice for reason or justice.
To add to the injustice that already exists in the Family Court System, there is another branch that now exists. Children who are conceived through artificial insemination, raised by their biological and non biological parents and then stripped away from their non biological parent without a blink of an eye. Shared parenting needs to be extended even more. Unless there is abuse, drugs, alcohol or some other factor that would put a child in harms way, a child's right is to see each parent equally. No one can define a "better" parent. Each parent has good/bad qualities that a child will learn from. Its frustrating this isn't obvious to the courts? How can they determine a "better" parent?
Fathers Discriminated from low income housing.
I am a divorced dad and due to my child support obligation like many has a limited income.
I needed to find housing so I applied for subsidized housing only to find out I did not qualify what was most alarming is that a women with child care expense can declare that as a deduction an meet the qualification for low housing.
so I ask them isn't child support a child care expense and they would no include this, This is clearly a a case of Discrimination
I have written to President Obama concerning this and did receive a letter from Senator Toomey in PA .However they did not address the matter at hand and that was how fathers child support obligation is not counted as a child care expense,Instead they recited me the child support laws and sent me to low income housing were this all started from .
My goal in this quest is to help fathers obtain affordable housing,Many dads today are forced to live in a room and not be able to have meaning child visitation. I have experienced that as well and was evicted because I choose to meet my child support obligation first before my rent.
So I ma reaching out to father and asking them to join me and write to their congressman that this law that entitles mothers to declare their child care expense and father not able to declare their child support obligation with low income housing is unfair feel free to respond I have a page on Face Book call Fathers Housing Discrimination feel free to friend me .
Thanking you in Advance
John Henry Heiman
I have had a nightmare of a ex-wife Problem for over 20 years! When I divorced her I was forced by the mentality of the stereo-type thinking to give her Custody! when my children were teenager 13 and 15 I took her to Court and tried to get Full Custody! I was on my second Judge and received the recommendation from the Court evaluator to get Full Custody! Then I got my third Judge and he would except the evaluator report and assigned a new one! In the mean time my ex-wife was able to force my Daughter to tell me that her mother gave her a number to call and she would have to tell them that I was abusing her? I questioned her how she could lie about something so evil about me! My Children explained to me that it's OK to lie for the better Good? I could understand how their Mother twister their Minds and taught them that It's like we are at War and they have to do what their Mother says! I had the first Judge warn her and threaten her that If she continued this that se would lose Custody. In his Words (If you teach a Child to Hate they will often end up Hating you). My Lawyer told me that since my Daughters were too old to continue this law suit and that they would come around when they grew up a little! waited and waited! I was invited to visit my oldest Daughter Ashley and stay with her a talk and get to know each other again while her Husband was at work! My youngest Daughter moved in with her Boyfriend and everything was looking good until the Boyfriend told me that the Girls and their Mother have been telling everyone that I sexually abused them! When I confronted them. They said that their Mother told them that she had medical records to prove it! Since I know there are no such records I asked them to prove it! They Blocked their Phones and shut off their Facebook accounts! Now what should I do? I asked my Daughters ex-boyfriend and her confirmed that they told everybody at their Church that I lost Custody because of the sexual abuse charges! There are no such records and nothing was even alleged. I found out that my old Boss at work went to the same Church as my ex-wife and that he knew her! This is why I lost my job of 26 years! I've been told that I should sue. who has that kind of money? I
My ex-wife absconded with my then 1 year old daughter, 5 years ago today. It was part of a Green Card Fraud. She fled to Texas with her boyfriend and sister. The police could do nothing but file a report. I filed for Emergency custody. They hid my daughter in another state and refused communication. The FBI said it’s legal. Although the Guardian Ad Litem/Divorce/Immigration attorney who had somehow ended up on my case although she wasn’t the GAL named in the hearing, testified on my ex’s (Vietnamese) behalf from the beginning and told the judge to make me pay 72% of all airfare to and from SC and Texas. He ruled it. The GAL had graduated from that judges GAL program in S.C. The Senior judge was Bench Chair and oversaw the Federal funding for it. I had temporary custody. My lawyer was then murdered and my case was assigned to another lawyer by the states Chief Justice. My ex fired her lawyer and immediately hired the GAL’s law firm partner. Skipping to the end of the last trial, she did not have to show up, my lawyer said I would get nothing, the judge said in front of everyone that he knew there were “inaccuracies” but he would not change his own ruling and I would have to get another judge to do it. The GAL and ex’s lawyer had written the order to sign. She had gotten primary custodial rights reversed at the insistence of the GAL who met with the judge after the hearing, before the decision, behind closed doors. It allowed primary residence in Texas with her. My daughter had since complained in detail of sexual molestation. When I reported it, visitation was taken away from me. I need help. It gets worse.
After four years of court dates and verbal abuse from my ex and his girlfriend, I am now only allowed 2 weekdays each week with my children, 13 and 15. They are in complete alignment with their dad and stepmom on all issues. And because I am now getting less than 50/50, I pay child support and insurance. Corrupt courts that benefit from government kick backs from child support and corrupt lawyers who gain financially from litigation are the driving force behind these behaviors. If we demanded 50/50 custody in all cases and ended child support, parents would be less likely to embark on a campaign of denigration of the other parent and our kids would be free to love and be loved. They would grow up to have trust in the 2 people who will always be there for them. They would know how adults engage in effective communication and compromise. Instead, we teach them how bad the other parent is and try to erase them so we can hurt the other parent and gain control and money. Sad, sad world. So much for the best interest of the child.
heres my quick story. me and my ex were together for 5 years, one day she dumped me because she felt like she wanted to be single for a while. i was heart broke. she dated a friend a week later. i chased her and cried every day she made it clear she didnt want to be with me. i backed off but we continued to equally share our daughter a week on week off. 50 50, we also shared every bill and both put her into activities and both took her to doctor, everything exc.
i stopped chasing her,. and she started getting mad. she would call me n scream n yell, swear at me and put me down. threaten me constantly and try and take away our child. this went on for 8 months,. finally i couldnt take it. so i lied and said if you keep harassing me im going to show all this to the police. she stopped.
she continued to bash me behind my back and when i got a new girlfriend. who is very pretty and nice. my ex decided to take me to court.
i have tried to have equal rights because i thought that i did . but i was wrong. i have no rights at all. i didnt know that in canadian law if a unwed father has a child he legally has no custodial rights. i tried to claim my child on income tax season. they told me i had to prove that i am STILL my childs father? i was pissed off. i asked did the mother have to prove that she was the mother? they said she did prove it, because she was the birth mother, i said and im the birth father, n they said prove it. n i said im telling you i am, i was there in the hospital. i was there my childs whole life.
i tried to get a copy of my childs birth certificate. they sent it to me. but my name was not on it. i asked. why is my name not on this certificate. they told me that i have never signed it , and according to vital statistics. i am not my childs father and they cannot release any information to me with out a court document. i filled out all the information in the hospital except the birth certificate. i remember when i went to sign it. the nurse grabbed it from me and said , usually the mother only signs it. i was young and ignorant and i should of said , NO im signing it. but i didnt think it mattered because i thought we were going to be together for ever...
i tried to take my daughter to see the doctor several times. and register her at my family doctor. they allowed me to take her in, but i couldnt register her or even get a copy of her health card because they said since i dont live with the mother i cannot obtain the health card with out her approval.
i even went to register my daughter for school the following year. they told me that i could not register my daughter under my name as my child, i could only do it as a gaurdian or non-custodial parent.
i am out raged, i have no rights , WE HAD our child together.
my ex went crazy and its been 4 years of court and i have got no where, she just wants money money even though we dp the exact same things for our child equally. did i mention she got pregnant and married to a man she just met 4 months after she dumped me friend and 5 months after she dumped me
the thing that pisses me off the most, she is fighting hard for child support, i live back in my moms house n cannot afford a home, my ex just bought a new car, a new house, 2 new ATVS an i pad, all these designer clothes because her husband works in a diamond mine.
while im thousands of dollers in debt because i just want to raise my child and have equallity, and i bet once court is done, no matter what, no matter how much i do , even if i do more, i will still have to pay the mother. i am a welfare check, or soon to be,
so moral of my story, trying to be a father costed me so much money, its no wonder that so many children dont have dads. its because the system sucks them dry and turns them into slaves. and im soon to be a slave. they need to scrap child support and give automatic equal custody to each parent.
they also need to get rid of the CHILD TAX CREDIT n the FAMILY ALLOWANCE.
this is the real reason why women fight and are so bitter, because they dont want to give up the money, id like to see how women raise children 50 50 , with out recieve child support, tax credit and family allowance. i guarentee they would throw the damb baby at the dad,
thats my story, sorry for it being so long
My Name is Colin Hecker, after our divorce I had weekend custody of my children, and later after my daughter (14 yr old) was raped in my ex wives custody by my ex wives boyfriend while she was in the other room, I had been given temporary custody for my children, by law in North Dakota they have to be in your custody for exactly 6 months and then you can file a permanent residence, so 5 months and 15 days later she was given the ok from Social Services to have them back, we went to court and North Dakota being the state it is, says its Ok, she is all better and gave them back to her, but I was granted split custody of them, so to get to the point, NortH Dakota's answer to split custody is this, I have now 2 children left with her, I pay her 3,000 dollars a month for two children so she can have them for 2 weeks, the system is iterally sucking the life out of me, she went 7 yrs without a job, and they did nothing, I was going to try and open my own business and child support says that I better not miss a payment or I go to jail, equal custody and i go to jail!!! The system is so terrible, my life is pretty much on a halt with my fiancé, kids, work, because the system is taking everything from me, and she has no requirements on anything or responsibilities, but I do have my children, while she is living the high life we are struggling to make it through day by day.
Hello to all that share in my misery.
I am sharing my story with all of you not only to attempt to get help with my particular problem but to also to advise you all not to make the same mistakes that I have made in the past, along with the unfair treatment and dis-information that I've received from the courts over the last 26 years.
So with that out of the way I can now tell you my story. It begins on January, 31st 1988, my 22nd birthday. When I picked my sons mother up and went to the Berrien county Michigan's Friend of the court. I went voluntarily to sign the birth papers because unfortunately I was out of town when he was born and also to setup child support and fulfill my financial duties as a parent on my new born son. That was my first mistake, not for attempting to fulfill my parental duties; but for not retaining legal consul to represent me at this process. I was young and still had faith in a system that I thought was not only there to protect the rights of my child but also the rights of both parents equally. I was totally wrong! I was miss-informed throughout this whole process and ignorant in thinking that a government organization would be on the side of all children and parents alike. It's my feeling to this day that the Friend of the court system in the state of Michigan is and always has been corrupt and that they do not have any interest in the welfare of the children or the health and financial well being of the parents at all. As long as they get their money they are happy and don't really care if the children that are involved are deprived of anything or the parents are financially ruined. Well now that I think of it, it's all in their name. The Friend of the court is the perfect name for them, because that's the only friend that they have and I will explain this statement in detail throughout my story.
I signed all the papers and felt that both mine and my sons mothers best interests were covered because we had been in agreement on everything that was gone over with the court officer assigned to our case. We were at the office for well over a half day and even know we had never been married, we agreed that we would both be equal in all parental rights and we discussed all of this in front of the court officer. This officer of the court system just typed and shoveled papers in front of us, mainly me to sign. Never once did this officer of the court put any paper in front of me giving me the same rights as a parent, but again because I didn't retain legal consul I had no way of knowing this. Never once did this officer advise me to have legal consul to look over all the paper work before I signed them. Never once did this officer take into consideration of the well being of my son by feeling the love and nurturing of both parents. Finally never once did this officer, who was there to mediate a mutual decision between the parents and set up an affordable and fair child support payment to both parties involved give any consideration of the consequences both mentally and physically to the parent that would eventually get his heart ripped from his chest and his child ripped from his life, as well as having the sons father ripped from his life also. All that this officer cared about was defying and clouding the non-custodial parents' legal rights, me in this case to give up my rights as a father. The only rights that I ended up with after I left the office of the Friend of the court was, that I know had the right to pay $52.50 a week from a $6.50 per hour salary along with now I also had the right to purchase health insurance for an additional $28.00 per month from the same salary. Do the math, that didn't leave a lot to work with after the deductions.
My sons mother and I continued seeing each other for a while, then I when refused to marry her and it was over. I could not marry someone that I didn't love but I did still continue spending time with my son. I would pick him up after work and spend time with him and my nieces and nephews at my sisters house. One day I was on my way home from work and I stopped by to see my son to maybe take him for the night but no one was home. It was kind of strange to me that her and my son weren't home, she usually called me for a ride if she needed to go anywhere. It also just didn't look right visually. I noticed that the curtains looked different and out of place and also that there was a mess outside on the steps, so I looked through the front window only to see the apartment was empty other then garbage all over the floor. She had ran with my son and I had no idea where she had gone to.
For the next couple months I contacted everyone that we knew in an attempt to find my son. I heard rumors that she was in another town about 25 miles away but didn't have an address. A few months went by, as a matter of fact it was 4 months and I got a knock on the door, it was the mother of my son alone. She told me that she was visiting a friend just down the street and wanted to talk. I was civil but concerned where my son was. She told me that he was down the street at our friends house so we walked down to see him. She also told me that she met someone and moved in with him. I told her how much it had upset me that for 4 months I had no idea where my son was. She told me she was sorry and it wouldn't happen again. After I spent the next hour or so with my son she told me that she had to go. She then left and disappeared with my son again.
After she did her disappearing act again I contacted the Friend of the court, it was at that time that I was told that I had absolutely no rights to my son what so ever. Needless to say I was very angry and rather rude to the person that I was speaking to on the phone. I flat out told this women that if I had no right to my son that they had no right to my money. I then quit paying the support which today I know was wrong but then it didn't matter, I was pissed. Then almost 8 months later she contacted me to let me know that her and my son where in North Carolina but at least this time I had a phone number and could now contact her. I really became upset then just finding out that my son was now almost 800 miles from me and I attempted to reason with the Friend of the court again only to get the same answer and because I had refused to pay support they had put a warrant out for my arrest for non-support. I didn't care because they would have to find me first.
Well after finding out where she was at and having an uncle that only lived 50 miles from her, I made arrangements to go and see my son. I went over a long weekend and my cousin who's father was down there road with me. I drove strait through and arrived about 8 am at my uncles, dropped my cousin off and drove to her home to see my son. I saw him that afternoon and was so happy to see him walking and talking. It was great and I knew that I could make it work when I saw him. I thought to myself that I could make trips down over long weekends a few times a year, and when he was old enough to travel I could pay for him to come up and see me and my parents during the summer and maybe even some holidays.
There I went thinking again, By the end of the weekend she informed me that she was pregnant again and getting married and the man she was marrying wanted to adopt my son. I told her no and that I wanted to spend time with my son, that I wanted to be the one to teach him how to play sports and how to be a man. Her reply to me was that she wasn't going to let me do that and that he wasn't going to know me. Let me tell you that the 800 mile ride home was miserable, everything she said to me tore at my insides like a cross cut saw.
After all that happened in North Carolina I continued to refuse to pay support. This went on for a couple years and when I finally got sick of going to jail and changing jobs in order to dodge the garnishment of my wages I finally conceited to a lost battle and stayed at one job and started paying my support faithfully. After that one afternoon my phone rang, it was her and she was trying to make some sort of mends or so I thought again. We talked for a few minutes and then she asked me if I would like to talk to my son, I happily said yes and then she said just don't tell him that your his dad. Does anyone out there know how that feels? Well let me tell you it feels as if someone punched right through my chest plate and ripped out my heart. To this day I can't think of it without tears welling up and anger following it, but I continued to pay support only missing a few payments when I was either laid off or between jobs.
Now the back support had built up interest. Starting in 1989 and not stopping till 2010. The state of Michigan was charging me an 8% biannual interest rate on my back support, then they were charging the same interest on the interest that I was already charged and my arrears just kept growing, going from a $6000 balance to over $43000 and it did not stop till 2010 when my son was already 23 years old and the Michigan Supreme court deemed that the interest was unconstitutional. I have done everything in my power to attempt to get this debt caught up over the last 20 years only to get slapped in the face at every turn. I have managed to pay this , what I think is an unfair debt balance of over $43000 down to less than $16000 and would still be paying if an unfortunate injury hadn't caused me to become disabled. I called the Friend of the court to inform them of my predicament and to let them also know that I have filed for SSDI, their answer was once again to file a bench warrant for my arrest for not paying support. So I contacted my sons mother in an attempt to make an arrangement to pay the remaining balance when I receive my settlement, well she's thinking about it. This women took my child away from me, not letting me be a part of his life at all for over 20 years until I finally found him on Facebook and contacted him myself and she has to think about making a decision that would actually benefit her in the end. Well I'm now angry again, I have paid over $70000 more in child support then I was originally ordered to, the women made me look like a father who abandon his kid and I have no idea if I will ever be able to repair that damage. I am living way below poverty level, I have cashed in all my retirement just to pay my bills and eat a couple times a day over the last year and I have literally broken my back just to pay my back support, and she has to think about it. Hell the court even seized my wife s bank account simply because my name was on it. They are going to revoke my drivers license and they have seized my tax returns for over 20 years. I'm almost homeless and don't own a thing. She has a beautiful home and never has had to worry about where her next meal is coming from but I'm the dead beat. I have been robbed by the state of Michigan for 26 years and I get threatened with jail when they can't squeeze another dime from me.
I'm broke, financially, physically and mentally. I have absolutely no faith in our justice system and I'm just ready to give up all together. If I don't get help soon I'll either end up in the hospital, the mental ward or jail.
My boyfriend (future husband) currently has no legal rights to his child. He suffers from depression weekly from feeling he will never have a relationship with his son. His ex-wife used the court system during the recession to exploit his unemployment and him leaving to find work in a different the state as child abandonment. He landed a good paying job and was paying child support. We went to court and the judge expressed that this could be reversed with the cooperation of continuing paying child support and having guidance through Guardian at Litem. The cost to go through this program is $5,000. So back on his feet, having a good job, going through the hoops and then he gets let go from his computer programming job for being outsourced to India. So now no means to pay this $5,000 and being able to pay anything close for his monthly child support cost. His wife is just filled with hate (she was the unfaithful one) and just wants to live her life with new husband and not share their son with her ex-husband. Can anybody out there help? He has been seeking employment and going on many job interviews but the economy is still not there and it is very competitive. He is picking up handyman, but that is not cutting the expenses needed to get him back on track. Please help.
My name is Helen Cid and I am the mother of two daughters by two different men. My oldest was the product of a man who took advantage me while I was drunk and passed out. At the time I was a soldier and he was in my unit he would make death threats towards me and make work very difficult out of fear I only filed a restricted report. I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 10 weeks. When he found out the threats started back up and he attempted more than once to thrown me down the stairs and said if I didn't get an abortion than he would make me lose the baby. The chain of command finally issued a Military Protective Order. When my daughter was 3 he showed up at the Attorney General and put himself on child support. I never asked for back support or anything. He then had my daughters last name changed to his. Now my daughter is 6 and I had to go on a mission with the Army and it was during his court ordered visitation so after seeking legal counsel through JAG I had to give her father POA for a year to enroll her into school. After 7 months I revoked his POA and attempted to get my daughter back but he had ran away with her and hid her from me. After I spent almost 4 thousand dollars and went to New York and took him to court and filed police reports and finally got my daughter back he followed us to El Paso and filed a case with JUDGE Mike Herrera. I had 4 days notice on a weekend and had no time to find a lawyer. I went to the hearing and begged the judge for an extension and he made me proceed without representation. When I broke down crying in the court room I was told being dramatic wouldn't help my case and he gave me daughter to her father for 6 weeks for the summer. We had another hearing July 24th and this time I had a lawyer. My lawyer was able to prove that the father had committed perjury 4 times on the stand, the father had no proof of any of his testimonies, and openly admitted to not telling the truth to his lawyer. When I went on the stand I had all the paperwork, all the proof, and asked to submit the police report of the sexual assault and abuse and was denied. He then told me I relinquished my rights as a mother by giving him the POA and that he is granted temporary custody. Mike Herrera gave my daughter to a man who is still in the Army Reserves and can still deploy, lives with his mother and father still, has abused multiple women in the past, works for FEDEX, and has his mother and step dad raise my child while he goes out to drink with his friends or claims to work. I am no longer active duty and I am not in the reserves. I am a full time student and I go to class after my daughter goes to school and get out before she gets out of school. I drop her off and pick her up everyday. She was already enrolled in school here in El Paso and he ripped her out without even letting her say goodbye to her friends. I have my own house and pay my own bills. My two year old daughter (my ex-husband's child) has been devastated by this. She loves her big sister and tries to be just like her and do what she does everyday. The judge gave no consideration what was in the best interest of my children and took my daughter from me.
Straight to the point, I haven't seen my daughters K (19) C (13) since 2007,
I am disabled and a Service Connected Veteran. They take $585.00 from my SSDI for Child support and My ex also receives an additional $224.00 per child per month as an Auxiliary Pmt, Because I am disabled and on SSDI. she has received since 4/3/2010 a total of $34,582.00 in Auxiliary Pmts that I have not received credit for, however the Court in Manatee County Florida applies the $448.00 Auxiliary Pmt to my Income.
The Court IDO states My ex is only entitled to $590.50 per month, however she is receiving $956.90 per month. The case manager at CSE has told me to sign a paper to claim the Auxiliary pmts as a gift, and she will Notify SSA to deduct at the rate of 55% instead of the current 65%, I have been re-married since 7-2006.
My ex-Wife use my child and I to get citizen ship.
Judge Moriarty was fair with the child support amount and the parenting time the only thing was that she granted custody to my ex. When I was moving I found fake documents a ssn card with matching green card's name with ex's picture. As far as I know that is a Federal crime I was born and raise in this country and have been paying taxes since I was 15 1/2 So I file to go back to court to get at least mutual custody do to the reason that I'm concern she could skip the country with my son and disappear. I go on front of Judge Armstrong everything Judge Moriarty judge on out the window. Come out paying more Child support that put me homeless plus I had my oldest in college that I was helping now he needs to take a semester. The best part I have to turn over my son's passport to her so she could travel.
Talk about loosing Faith in the system I swear something happens to my son who is 4 years old I will hold this state of Ma fully responsible
My two year old granddaughter will join the every growing group of girls that will be growing up without a father thanks to the family court in Portland, Oregon. A judge is allowing her mother to take her out of the country, and she is not allowed to return until she is eight years old. How this is even possible is beyond my understanding!! This child is an American citizens!
In 2007, we received a notification that my husbands son and mother would be relocating to Iowa. We received this notification 2 days before Christmas! We obviously immediately filed a response, as at the time we had 50/50 joint custody. After $10,000 and several parenting classes, two days in court, and completely mentally exhausted we decided that we should all be reflecting on what was best for the child. So we decided to do what would eventually become the "BIGGEST" mistake of our lives. We worked out a parenting plan with the mother; she would move to Iowa, the child would also go, but he would be brought back to Kansas City once a month for visitation during the school year and he would spend 7 1/2 weeks of summer in KC with us. In 2010 we received a modification notice, guess what, she no longer wanted to drive him to KC, the plan didn't work, plus she wanted him to be in KC less during the summer so they could take vacations. Actually she wanted to change the entire parenting plan. We were able to convince a Missouri judge that no changes had been made and he ruled to keep the parenting plan "As is". So then she just quit following it, she would have an excuse all the time for why he wasn't available for visitation, scheduling appointments during his planned visits, bringing him when she knew we were out of town. We finally decided we had enough and filed a Family access motion in Missouri, without an attorney. Why did we need an attorney. The proof was right there, he hadn't been brought for visitation, Missouri issued a compensatory parenting plan to make up for the time missed. This was all we were asking for, and they did it. She decided not to follow it of course and then filed a temporary restraining order in Iowa keeping the child again from his father for 6 weeks. When we went to court for the restraining order, she dropped it and said she was fine going back to the original parenting plan, yet she still didn't follow it. Then we went to court in Iowa, as she filed a new modification in 2012. This time we spent another 12,000 on attorneys and several $1,000 on travel and hotels. We would end up going to court in June, where a judge decided that although our child support had been $350.00 since 2002 and my husband who still had the same job in which his income went from 30,000 - 75,000 from year to year. In 2012 he had made somewhere around $20,000 by June when we went to court, the judge asked what he thought that he would make and he stated $65,000 for the year. The judge decided that he would make $99,000 according to child support. My husband had never made that income. In 2012 my husband made $34,700. We paid $817.17 a month in child support and $400 in Medical support. The insurance that was carried on the child was free, there was no monthly premium, His mothers new husbands job offered it free from any monthly premium, however it was a high deductible plan. He is a fairly healthy child though and they had hit there deductible every year, as she had two more children since the move. In, 2013 my husband made $75,000. I understand with the influx child support should have been calculated on a average of several years but we were told that the petitioner provided documentation of the income, even though we never seen it. We filled for a review for child support and the judge did take the medical support out of it, since no one paid for medical insurance. She left the child support the same though. We filed an appeal at the state level, this was also denied, as the appeal judge said that they would not change it as the income had been proved by the district court. These documents that were provided are obviously false!! Yet we can't get anyone to change the order. During the course of 2013, we filed documents three times with the child support agency stating that his income had changed more than 50% yet they would send us several denial letters saying it hadn't. I'm pretty sure that $37,400 is 50% less than 99,000. Beyond the child support issue, my husband hasn't seen his son since December of 2013. He came for Christmas! Then he left and hasn't returned, he should have been here for several weeks over the summer yet she planned other activities for him. The child did come to his uncle's house, my husbands brothers for one night in June 2013, we went there to see him, he explained that his mother makes his life really hard when he even mentions going to his dad's so it's easier to just stay away, that is his plan! Now what, well we have filed a new review for child support, it has been 2 years and they should do a review for a 20% change of income, we haven't received any communications in regards to that though. Once my husband starts his new job and we catch up on child support we will file a contempt since she doesn't allow him to come to Kansas. Right now as it is, we gave her our tax return of $2,890 and they take $490 twice a month to get him caught up but because some months they are unable to take the full $490 we are still several $2,000 behind. We have sold one of our vehicles, taken out personal loans, used his son's college funds, and we are still living paycheck to paycheck because of this child support, yet she gets to go on vacations, buy new vehicles (for her and her husband), and his son, yea he got balloons for his 15th birthday! So I am pretty sure they are not using any of the money to take care of him. We have two small children 5 and 9, we've had to deny them of things like softball and extras because we can't afford them. Very frustrating!!
My story is in the making. My exwife left me last year after 11 years together. She came into the relationship with 2 boys, ages 2 and 6. I had 5 older daughters and 1 son ,4 at the time we were married. My 5 daughters were grown and on their own. WE decided no more children but she talked me into having a child together to " bond" our family. She wanted a girl and did everything in her power to make sure she had one. Our life had many ups and downs the past few years. Well, after a few "trips" to Canada, where she is from, she got together with an old boyfriend and now she must have her hooks in him and wants to move my kids to Cananda. I do have joint custody but was informed by an attorney that a judge could grant the move. Our daughter was born in the U.S. and I do not want to lose her. She is my heart, my world. I will do anything to keep the kids here. My eldest boy is now 18 and has dual citizenship. The 16 year old is with me and she never mentions the fact that she is the only mother he knows. She will leave him behind for her new "man". The younger boy is 14, a US citizen but hasnt seen his biological father in 12 years. He is a mamas' boy and will do whatever she wants. But I do not want to lose my 7 year old lil girl. I plan to fight the move, but could use any help or advice you and your members can offer. Thank you.
I have a possible opportunity for a story. I live in Indiana. The standing court order has the non-custodial parent saving a portion of the child support that would otherwise be paid to the custodial parent, in a savings account to be used for the children's' post secondary education. The kicker (and news worthy tidbit) is that the court order very specifically says that the child support the court ordered be saved, is to be used by the custodial parent to offset any obligation they may have for the children's post secondary college education expenses, and NOT BY THE CHILD THE CHILD SUPPORT ORDER WAS ISSUED for to reduce the financial burden on the child of post seondary education expenses.
What this clearly demonstrates is two fold. First, that Indiana's child support must be ordering excessive amounts if a custodial parent is able to go without a portion of said child support, and instead have that support saved, and yet be fiscally sound from a judicial perspective with regard to the custodial parent's to fiscally provide for the children. Second, that Indiana believes and practices that child support is not really support for the child, but support for the custodial parent whom otherwise would have to provide financial support for their children from their own available resources (excluding child support provided by the non-custodial parent). Indiana equates and treats child support as Welfare for Women, or Money for Mooching Mothers, and not with money solely intended to benefit children.
I would like to garner some interest in this situation and I believe it has great potential for a story that gets to some of the very heart and soul of issues plaguing family courts across the United States.
If you are interested in pursuing this as a potential story, please contact me.
Thanks and my best!
My judge, my lawyer and my ex's lawyer made a 23 thousand dollar mistake. I am told the judge is not accountable. It's bad enough I was forced into a divorce I did not want and forced into financial annihilation while my ex is rewarded and my three boys are alienated from me. The abuse has just escalated. The incompetent judge wrote a judgement incorrectly which prompted a letter from Child Support Enforcement claiming I need to pay 23 thousand dollars in addition to the 77 thousand that was just paid. An unemployed school teacher can not afford such punishment. I regret even going to college, working hard for 28 years and starting a family. My little brother committed suicide in 2011 for very much the same reason. Is this our only hope? Suicide?I want and need to see all three of my judges financially annihilated along with all lawyers on my case including psychologists, custody evaluator, mediators, and every other person who makes profit on someones misery. That can not even pay back the pain and suffering for the last 20 years. How dare this country try to say we are the greatest in the world. I know we have the most sociopaths.
I can't join your organization. I will never be able to afford it!
I am a loving father of a 13 year old girl. Her mother and I fell apart when our daughter was two. The mother lives in NJ and I live in NY She tried to get me for child support but the judge dismissed that because he saw that I took good care of my child. I also took her to court for joint custody because she kept trying to stop me from seeing my daughter. The judge told us to go to mediation and he dismissed the case. Both parents have to agree to mediation and she would not, so we didn't go. Instead we came to a verbal agreement. Because she was living in NJ and already had her in school she stayed in NJ. I would get her whenever she didn't have school.
Now my daughter is 13 years old. She went on her annual trip with her grand mother to NC, and I was told she would be back on the 18th of July. However, she did not return. I was then told she would be back on the 2nd of August. She still has not gotten back. I called to see what was going on and my daughter told me her mother and grand mother moved her to NC, but they are both back in NJ. She is now staying with her "aunt" in Winston Salem NC. They didn't speak to me about this at all. They just moved my daughter and gave her to her "aunt". My rights have been violated as a father and I need help.
I have a daughter. Her mother and I were never married. When we broke up she kept my daughter from me and I had to spend all my savings and go into debt to get visitations. She calls the police and the dhs on me often. I took her to court to see my daughter after she ignored dhs and kept her from me. Because she accuses me of horrific things the judge just said that he understands her fear. After the ruling she stopped letting me see my daughter. The order still says I can have my visits but she says I can't have her. She takes my daughter to different therapists. When they say I'm not abusive she changes therapists. I'm broke and can't afford to keep fighting. I have custody of my older two daughters. I have exhausted all means to defend myself and my rights to see my daughter. I could go back to for another contempt but the judge will just say she is a worried mother again and let her get away with this. Courts seem to just over look all 11 of the complaints she has filed and have been unfounded or dismissed.
I love in Texas and have an interstate case filed through the Los Angeles County court system. I have a lengthy court history due to a Mom that tries to make a relationship with my son impossible. My current battle is with the LA County Child Support Office. My current order has an add-on for 1/2 of child care expenses ($158/month) garnished directly from my check. The order states ver batim that "The custodial parent is to pay by check or money order, mail a copy of check or money order to Respondent each month on the 30th of each month and notify CSSD within 10 days of terminating child care."
I am handed off between case workers and associates with no one willing to help me. They said they have noted that the Mom is being "non-cooperative" and threatened to close the case against her. As a result of the threat the Mom provided child support with receipts showing where she paid her own mom for child care in cash and they accepted this as sufficient proof. The only option they give me for enforcing current order is to ask for a modification. Modification and getting a new court order does not address the problem if the child support office fails to enforce a new order as they have failed to do with the current order.
I filed a complaint resolution request and their only response was to send me the cash receipts and tell me I need to request a modification which my case had already been approved for. They never once mentioned that my case has been approved for modification because the CP had requested and been approved for modification for an increase in child support.
Why does the CP have so many enforcement options, but a NCP that follows through with the order, makes all payments on-time have zero options for enforcing the order on the CP?
Divorced 2002. I have 505 custody of both my children and still I have had to pay over $75,000 in child support since 2008. Makes no since. It doesn't take this much money to raise 2 children half the time. I support to families, mine and my ex-wife, new husband, his 2 boys, and then my 2 great kiddos. These formulas are way out of line and have pretty much helped my 40 year old ex-wife to sit on her can and become nothing (career wise) in fear she would loose her child support.
I am in the process of trying to help an elder women, her husband was wrongly accused and convicted of rape of a child under 14. As all stories, this is very complicated, however since 2000 Mary has been trying to find some justice for her husband who is now in his 80's and very sick. The boys recanted thier story and stated that they had lied but to no avail, Mary's husband is still in prison.
At this point and time Mary is desperate to have her husband come home to be able to end his time on this earth at home with her, his wife of many years.
Is there anyone out there that can help Mary and me to better advocate on her behalf...find a pro bono lawyer as Mary is now in senior housing and can not afford one....In fact, the whole case was handled by court appointed lawyers and the local department of children services, we all know how that goes...at any rate any suggestions would be very helpful...
Thank you all for your time.
I have had joint physical custody since 2003 of two children. They were so young it is all they have known. After years of alienation finally my 12 year old daughter did not appear for my parenting time. At the same time my x had major surgery and was hospitalized. I did not hear about why she was not coming so I finally had to file a contempt. Of course she was not in contempt, you cant force a 12 year old to go. I have not had parenting time since. I have no idea where she is or where she goes. The court has removed all parenting time. They suggest therapy, mom brings her when she feels like it. Simple rule dont fight custody simply hold the child. Just don't communicate at all and keep the child that works, judges dont want to be involved in that one. They know alienation is real until it is in front of them
The Utah system is terrible. My ex has violated the decree/parenting plan repeatedly without consequences and is emboldened by his new wife who is nuttier than a fruitcake. Together they have effectively marginalized me from our child's life. I have joint custody of our child, and last I checked I am not dead, imprisoned, addicted, institutionalized, unemployed, or psychotic (yet). The ex and I coparented quite nicely until he dumped his really nice girlfriend (we miss her so much!) and became involved with this much-younger chick- who he quickly married. I don't know if it's midlife crisis or what, but ex cut me out of "their" life and was not the least bit pleasant about it. I was in disbelief. He outdid himself with every decree violation- he's hit 20 of the stips and there are some doozeys in there. I sought relief through the courts, believing he would be at least sanctioned for contempt. Was I ever wrong. The Commissioner seemed unprepared to rule on our case and spent most of the time bantering with my ex's atty about all the good fathers out there who are unfairly harassed and maligned by bitter exes. My atty gave a statement refuting their allegations, and that was all. The Comm upheld the decree- no mediation, custody eval, sanctions, nothing. I was stunned. I don't think he read the motions or supporting documents, and he certainly did not give it meaningful thought. My ex quickly sued me for court fees and won. So now I am paying him a ton of money each month, and he still calls all of the shots. I hardly ever see the child and we live in the same town. Our child is suffering emotionally as a result of this conflict, and that's what's most heart-breaking. He keeps refusing mediation, another violation that's gone unenforced. One atty told me to "let it all go" because personalities like his are "impossible" and in spite of his rampant a**holery, the child is not endangered. What? In case anyone was wondering if Utah courts favor mothers, or prioritize the best interests of the child...no. I have a new atty reviewing the case file who called the whole thing a real piece of work. What recourse, if any, is available to keep high-conflict exes accountable? I would appreciate any advice from someone who's been through this rabbit hole.
Here's where to begin... http://www.scribd.com/doc/228309373/Why-Family-Law-Needs-Reform-and-Why-The-Department-of-Homeland-Security-Was-Notified
Short story wife and boyfriend runs off with children 5 of them
hides in AL. Gives kids to two sisters they hide them in AL. gives kids to two sister Alabama tells me the day of custody hearing to be in court I now live in MI hearing is in AL. Lose kids never allowed one visit only two phone calls all the years.
Wife which never has custody is never ordered to pay any support I have to pay her two sister support. Since Alabama hide kids from me I built up a $14,900 arrears in one year at 12% interest . Oh did I mention I have multiple sclerosis totally wheelchair bound with a helper paid for by the state of Tennessee.
Alabama is now taken 65% of my SSDI which leaves me $350 a month to die on I will not say live. They said part is its $3200 actual child support on one case with $27,000 interest and $3400 with $12.000 interest on the other case.
And my wife has never had to pay a dime.
The biggest problem is I take care of my Mom who has had Alzheimer's which she depends on me now she may have to go to a nursing home. I know people will say you should been paying well I did when I got confined to my powerchair I got fired from my job. It took me 4 years to get disability with no back pay because the said I missed a deadline.
Oh well there is my story
I read the blog by Adi Vaxman regarding the appalling abuse she and her husband received courtesy of Israeli Courts and family laws. I have been in the same position. The abuse was so breathtaking, I've written a book on the subject.
My husband was trapped in Israel by his ex wife in December 2006, and is still there to this day. We lived in England, with a nice home and a new business, paying child support for children he could not see or speak to. We returned in 2006 to try and resolve property issues, and his ex wife decided to use the corrupt courts to destroy our relationship and our lives. She did a great job. Five years almost to the day he was prevented from leaving Israel, he tried to commit suicide. When Adi describes the 'light leaving her husband's eyes', I can describe a man who I'd known for 25 years become just a body with a heartbeat. Despite countless pleas and court cases, he was not allowed to leave Israel - having become a 'lowlife' and downbeat dad. The local bailiff delivered a judgment of child support AHEAD, amounting to 36 years worth, taking his youngest child to the age of 44 years old, one year older than my husband was at the time of the judgment.
I have poured hundreds of thousands of dollars into solving the problem, using many lawyers with big promises and no delivery; and watched the man I love disintegrate and disappear daily. I was desperate, and went to the UNHRC in Geneva to beg for his freedom without enormous ransom demands that no one on earth could fulfill, to have backs turned and very uncomfortable Israeli officials trying to avoid the subject.
Israeli fathers are 4 times more likely to commit suicide than any other group in Israel and it's a miracle many more don't give up living. The ex wife might have used revenge and a colluding system to murder my husband from the inside out, but spiritually she is bankrupt. He has no emotional capacity, and lives outside of any reality, having split his personality to live a functional, empty life in Israel.
It may be the case in all countries that unfairness exists in divorce and family laws, but I cannot think of another country which demands money ahead, which can be up to 18 or 21 years old and even longer in our case, plus Israeli citizens to guarantee the so called 'debt' of the future as well.
This has to stop, and reforms made. It wouldn't be an exaggeration to say as many divorced fathers have unnecessarily died from stress related causes, or suicide than soldiers have died in service over the past 6 years. Whilst they are trained to protect their country and the children, once separated they are declared not safe to see or touch their own children!
I wrote my book - Sour Milk and Stolen Honey to highlight the system and try to bring awareness to the brutality and heartlessness happening every day in Israel. It is available on Amazon as an ebook, with plans for further media shortly. Adi had a lucky escape, but sadly I didn't. I lost my husband as he lost himself and the courts acted with impunity and no consequences to the individuals who engaged in such destructive behaviour.
It's not just happening to Israeli Citizens. There are foreign nationals, including US citizens who are equally held involuntarily, in domestic wrangles. How can a man be a bank for his children by castrating his manhood leaving him unable to be a father in any sense of the word?
Thank God you don't have this barbaric treatment, and when asked about their own stories, many men shrug their shoulders and remark 'This is Israel'.
As I live now impoverished, I tried my best to believe in a democratic country and it's Jewish values. How wrong I was, but I sacrificed everything because I was asked to promise ''Never give up on me, even when I don't know who I am."
My name is Nick and I am a victim of the NH family court system. Since 2008, I have been forced to defend myself against so many wild and unfounded accusations, ranging from abuse and neglect, to kidnapping, threatening and willful unemployment, that at this point my case file in the NH Family Division is the thickness of a phone book. All attempts on my part to appeal decisions, bring motions for reconsideration, bring petitions begging for reviews of my case file and seeking findings of vexatious litigation and parental alienation have thus far been routinely denied with the rubber stamps of marital masters and hearing officers. Having been stalked and harassed endlessly by my ex and having watched her use my now six year old daughter as a game piece in her campaign of malicious attacks throughout the whole of my little girl's life, I am now a traumatized shell of my former self. Though I remain close to my daughter through our mere 66 allowed and ordered hours a month together, I have been and continue to go through hell just to be her dad. And while she is worth it to me, this system and what I have been through can in no way be called just, fair, reasonable or effective. As with my efforts in court, all attempts to call for legislative or judicial change have either been shouted down or ignored by those in power. It has left me feeling helpless, hopeless and second class in my citizenship. With orders now against me in direct violation of state law and guidelines, I remain denied the right to appeal thanks to legislative action devised to empower these courts and remove all accountability and oversight, all in the interests of money and politics.
Want to see Collusion & Corruption on a scale you couldnt imagine which not only DENIGHS the rights of INNOCENT Australian Children & Fathers but is the reason for so many DEATHS all instigated,Advised & perpatrated by the Australian Government & all Departments then covered up & Protected to ensure thier EVIL SECRET is kept & the money making SCAM & blame of MEN CONTINUES.Go to www.government betrayal.com & see for yourself.Fathers 4 Justice Aus has recently put it on the front page of thier site,l hope you guys will do the same.Until its exposed men & Children will continue to DIE for absolutely NOTHING.
Hope to hear from you.Steven Zagrovic & Kids.