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The General Assembly sent HB 1550 to Gov. Jay Nixon’s desk this week, opening access for both parents of children in divorce cases.

The shared custody law creates guidelines for parenting plans, requires courts to disclose why shared parenting wasn’t awarded if another arrangement is ordered, requires courts to provide written findings and conclusions in a custody case, specifies that courts can’t “presume that a parent, solely because of his or her sex, is more qualified than the other parent and prohibits local courts from establishing their own rules, such as having a default parenting plan.

“Thank you, Missouri legislators, for voting to bring state child custody laws in line with the overwhelming body of research showing that most children desperately want and need shared parenting after divorce or separation,”  said Dr. Ned Holstein, founder and chair of National Parents Organization. “Too many families have suffered from the family courts’ outdated preference for giving sole custody to one parent.  I urge Gov. Nixon to act on his historic opportunity to sign HB 1550 into law. Instead of setting up parents for a bitter and unnecessary custody battle, HB 1550 will allow families to heal from the pain of divorce and separation from a position of equality and co-parenting.”

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National Parents Organization celebrates the Missouri Legislature's passage of a bill that embraces shared parenting and parental equality after divorce or separation and urges Gov. Jay Nixon to waste no time in signing HB 1550 into law so that more children can experience the continued love and support of not just one, but both, of their parents.

"Thank you, Missouri legislators, for voting to bring state child custody laws in line with the overwhelming body of research showing that most children desperately want and need shared parenting after divorce or separation," Dr. Ned Holstein, Founder and Board Chair of National Parents Organization, said. "Too many families have suffered from the family courts' outdated preference for giving sole custody to one parent. I urge Gov. Nixon to act on his historic opportunity to sign HB 1550 into law. Instead of setting up parents for a bitter and unnecessary custody battle, HB 1550 will allow families to heal from the pain of divorce and separation from a position of equality and co-parenting."

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The National Parents Organization, a charitable and educational organization, has long been urging lawmakers to legislate shared parenting laws. Now, Missouri legislators are contemplating to pass a shared parenting bill called HB 1550.

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It almost seems that each generation lays a new fantasy trap for unwary mothers. Fifty years ago, it was the Donna Reed or June Cleaver fantasy – happiness as the perfect housewife in the perfect family in the perfect home. Twenty-five years ago, it was the Gloria Steinem fantasy – you can have it all, girl, the ambitious career, the fulfillment of motherhood, an evergreen marriage (or not) and time to write.

This generation’s fantasy trap is that if things don’t work out, you can get rid of the jerk, win sole custody of the children and the home and sail on proudly as a single mom like a ship through calm waters. Since you probably can get rid of the jerk and win sole custody, it’s the last part of that trilogy that doesn’t work – for you and also for your children.

The reality is that mountains of research now show that your children are likely to be happier and better adjusted, do better in school, be less likely to need special education interventions, more likely to graduate and go to college, have more and better friendships, be less likely to use drugs or alcohol, be less likely to run in gangs or get in trouble with the law, suffer less stress, be healthier and have lower chances of teenage pregnancy if they have shared parenting rather than sole custody.

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National Parents Organization urges single moms to join the push to make shared parenting the new norm, specifically, to support legislative proposals in many states, including Missouri, that advance it.

“Caught up in the pain and anger of a divorce, it is often very hard for a parent to accept the fact that the child loves and needs the other parent too,” said Dr. Ned Holstein, Founder and Board Chair of National Parents Organization. “On top of that, the family courts are still stuck in the mindset that their job is to pick one parent to be the custodial parent. The attorneys often prey on parents by creating fears of losing custody, and also entice them with the supposed advantages of winning sole custody. These so-called ‘advantages’ include a bitter and expensive custody battle, children who do more poorly than with shared parenting, a permanently hostile ex, and a relentless ordeal of work and childcare.”

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As a mother and grandmother, there’s nothing I want more this Mother’s Day than for the Missouri legislature to pass the shared-parenting bill.

This is my hope because I have felt the pain that Missouri’s broken family court system inflicts on families. Children are hurting. Parents are hurting. Aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents — everyone’s hurting. This unfortunate reality occurs because our courts continue rubber-stamping the outdated primary residential custody parenting model after divorce or separation, despite an overwhelming amount of research showing children need and want equal access to both parents.

Thankfully, Missouri legislators are considering legislation that aligns with research and stands to turn families’ pain into joy. HB 1550, which unanimously passed the Missouri Senate as well as the Fiscal Review Committee and is headed to the House floor, encourages our state’s courts to award shared parenting — a flexible arrangement where children spend as close to equal time as possible with each parent — when both parents are fit and there has been no domestic violence, and I urge all lawmakers to support this crucial proposal.

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When people think about a parent staying home to raise children in lieu of building a career, they may tend to think about the mother; but what about stay-at-home dads? According to Pew Research Center, the number of fathers choosing to stay home to care for their kids is on the rise.

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As Mother’s Day nears, first and foremost, let’s celebrate all mothers – they are a critical part of our American society and families.  Importantly though, as a society, we must recognize that women and men together are indispensable partners to our country’s most valuable treasure: our children.  We need to celebrate our children’s parents – both of them – as often as possible.

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In cases of divorce or separation, children often fall victims to a common concept that promotes conflict among parents, traumatizing kids in the process. That's why a charitable and educational organization known as the National Parents Organization is promoting shared parenting because it believed that no child should endure the difficulty of choosing between his or her parents after a divorce or separation.

Maintaining a strong bond between children and their parents is exceptionally vital to the emotional, mental and physical well-being of kids. In celebration of the National Parental Awareness Day on Monday, April 25, National Parents Organization is calling for a family law reform that will promote shared parenting.

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Amid attention surrounding National Parental Alienation Awareness Day on Monday, April 25, including Michigan Governor Rick Snyder's  honorable decision to recognize the day,  National Parents Organization encourages lawmakers nationwide to join the movement to turn shared parenting from the exception to the norm when parents divorce or separate.

"Far too often, the courts order sole custody to one parent after a bitter, winner-take-all custody battle. Because the non-custodial parent often has so little time with the child, the winning parent is empowered to poison the child's mind against the 'absent' parent. This creates heartbreak for child and parent," Dr. Ned Holstein, MD, Founder and Board Chair of National Parents Organization, said. "With shared parenting, it is difficult for anyone to turn the child against a parent with whom the child experiences frequent loving care. Shared parenting decreases these tragic cases of parental alienation. I urge legislators in all states to back shared parenting."

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Amid attention surrounding National Parental Alienation Awareness Day on Monday, April 25, including Michigan Governor Rick Snyder'shonorable decision to recognize the day, National Parents Organization encourages lawmakers nationwide to join the movement to turn shared parenting from the exception to the norm when parents divorce or separate.

"Far too often, the courts order sole custody to one parent after a bitter, winner-take-all custody battle. Because the non-custodial parent often has so little time with the child, the winning parent is empowered to poison the child's mind against the 'absent' parent. This creates heartbreak for child and parent," Dr. Ned Holstein, MD, Founder and Board Chair of National Parents Organization, said. "With shared parenting, it is difficult for anyone to turn the child against a parent with whom the child experiences frequent loving care. Shared parenting decreases these tragic cases of parental alienation. I urge legislators in all states to back shared parenting."

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Gov. Rick Scott failed — badly — when he vetoed SB668, the Legislature's latest effort to reform alimony and child custody post-divorce. He failed the children of Florida; he failed the parents of Florida; he failed women; he failed men. Apparently, the only group he didn't fail is the Family Law Section of the Florida Bar.

SB668 was a moderate bill. Nothing in it would have radically altered Florida law. Under it, divorcing spouses could continue to count on alimony commensurate with the length of their marriage and their earning power. Only alimony that was automatically permanent was done away with.

More important was the shared-parenting provision of the bill. It required judges in child custody cases to begin with the premise that children benefit from seeing each parent equally. But judges still would have discretion to decide parenting time according to the 20 factors that already guide those decisions. The best interests of the child would have been, as it is now, the desired outcome of every parenting time decision. Opponents repeatedly claimed that SB668 "mandated 50/50 parenting." That was frankly untrue.

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With National Ex-Spouse Day – which just passed on April 14 – meant to “be a positive day of reflection and to encourage people to release anger or resentment,” as reported in USA Today, the National Parents Organizationencourages states across the country to continue the national trend to reform our family courts by enacting shared parenting legislation after parents separate or divorce.
 
In the last year, more than 20 states have introduced legislation that would treat parents more equally in instances of divorce while also providing children what they most want and need – as close to equal time as possible with both their parents. Florida and Missouri are two most recent examples, with Missouri's legislature advancing a shared parenting bill in the Senate and Florida passing a bill that now awaits the Governor's signature.

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Gov. Rick Scott on Friday vetoed the single most contentious bill from the 2016 Legislature, a major overhaul of alimony law that would have allowed equal time-sharing of child custody in divorces.

Scott’s veto ends weeks of suspense and intense lobbying campaigns on both sides during which more than 11,000 calls and e-mails bombarded his office, with supporters ahead by a 4-1 margin.

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Too often, the only ones who exit the courtroom feeling like winners are attorneys, who routinely collect tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees for a single case. It comes as no surprise, then, that these attorneys – leadership of the Family Law Section of the Florida Bar – are opposing SB 668. This highly influential and affluent group of divorce attorneys make their living off our broken system, and with that in mind, they’ve paid lobbyists to work against child-friendly legislation. Given this clear conflict of interest, Gov. Scott should see these lawyers and their lobbyists for what they are: wolves in sheep's clothing.

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Two opposing groups merged into one loud protest Tuesday at Gov. Rick Scott's office.

Opponents and supporters of SB 668 wanted to advise Scott on the bill, which sets new guidelines for alimony and child custody cases. But Scott was out of town.

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Generally, men pay alimony, and women are granted primary custody. The ongoing debate over alimony generally falls along the same lines. When feuding protestors filled the governor’s office Tuesday, predictably, tempers ran high. Debate devolved into shouting matches, going head to head as they waited for a meeting with the governor's staff.

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Sitting on Gov. Rick Scott’s desk is a contentious bill setting new guidelines for alimony and child custody arrangements. Of the 272 bills the Florida Legislature approved in 2016, SB 668 was the final one sent to Scott.

Critics argue the proposal betrays women and hurts children. Supporters say the legislation updates alimony and custody laws to reflect changing social mores, is gender neutral and will reduce the need for litigation.

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DataCenter.KidsCount.org Whether you’re relocating or need info about your own community, this site has the economic and education data you’re looking for, says Ned Holstein, M.D., founder of the National Parents Organization. Eye-opening feature: how much money your school district spends per student compared with others in the state.

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Gov. Rick Scott holds the power to vastly improve the lives of millions of Florida's children at no cost to taxpayers by signing Senate Bill 668 into law. This bill, which also makes needed reforms to alimony in the age of the two-earner couple, better allows children of divorce to receive what they want and need — equal time with both parents. A large and growing body of research validates their wishes, and I strongly urge our governor to waste no time in signing SB 668, recently passed by the Florida Legislature.

The bill allows mothers and fathers an equal starting point in the time-sharing discussion when first walking into Florida's divorce courtrooms. Specifically, the bill holds that approximately equal time with each parent is in the best interest of children when parents divorce. Assuming the parents haven't already agreed on an alternative arrangement, it also requires judges to produce written findings of fact to justify a parenting plan that does not require close to equal time between parents. This is a reasonable and necessary move that will encourage all judges to follow the overwhelming research on what's best for kids.

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Don Hubin is on the board of the National Parents Organization, he says 47% of the workforce is women and one-third (1/3) of wives out earn their husbands.

So in a lot of families this "stay-at-home dad" setup makes good economic sense.

It also can teach kids that parenting or a marriage is not a competition. 

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"No loving and fit parent should ever lose the inherent right to spend significant, meaningful time with his or her child," said Dr. Ned Holstein, the organization's founder and board chairman.

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More than two million fathers consider themselves "stay at home dads."

Don Hubin is on the board of the National Parents Organization.

He says 47% of the workforce is women and one third of wives out earn their husbands.

So in a lot of families this makes good economic sense.

It also can teach kids that parenting or a marriage is not a competition.

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With International Women’s Day recently passing and Women’s History Month coming to a close, it’s important to remember all throughout the year that not only are women an important part of American society, but also, women and men together are indispensable to our country’s most valuable treasure: our children.

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