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February 25, 2009

1784I discussed teen singer Chris Brown"s reported assault of singer Rihanna on Rover's Morning Glory radio show in Cleveland, Memphis and other cities this morning. Rover is very tuned in to men's and fathers' issues, while his female co-host Duji is...less so. Rover was very interested in what happens to men who are accused of domestic violence, particularly in relation to divorce/custody. If this is something you have experienced, I suggest you write to him by clicking here. Teen singer Chris Brown"s reported assault of singer Rihanna is being widely depicted as an opportunity for society to learn about domestic violence, particularly teen dating violence. However, much of what the media and misguided women"s advocates are using the incident to teach is faulty. The view that males almost exclusively perpetrate domestic violence, and only females are victims is a severe distortion. For example, the most recent large-scale study of domestic violence was published in the American Journal of Public Health in 2007.

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February 11, 2009

"[M]en improve their standard of living after a divorce while women sacrifice theirs. This is true in all divorces..." New York Times writer Lisa Belkin chided Fathers & Families in a recent column, contrasting F & F's recent child support lawsuit with her view that "men improve their standard of living after a divorce while women sacrifice theirs." In Who ‘Wins" in a Divorce, Mom or Dad?, Belkin writes:
Child custody and balance of parenting power post-divorce have been in the news around the world lately. Everywhere it is messy, and everywhere parents seem certain that the other gender is getting the better deal. In Great Britain, the Institute for Social and Economic Research released a study last month called "Marital Splits and Income Changes Over the Longer Term.' The first of its kind in the country, it showed what similar studies in the U.S. have concluded over the years -- that men improve their standard of living after a divorce while women sacrifice theirs. This is true in all divorces, but particularly striking when the couple has children, because the children are more likely to live with their mothers, who earn less than their ex-husbands and pay more child care expenses... And over in Massachusetts, new guidelines were adopted on Jan. 1 that will raise the amount paid by non-custodial parents, who are usually fathers. A Boston-based advocacy organization, Fathers & Families, responded with a lawsuit charging that the changes are excessive. In an article analyzing the changes on the website of Psychology Today, writer Paul Raeburn concludes that in this debate, as in nearly every other surrounding divorce, child support guidelines often seem, to fathers, to be unrealistically high, and to others, unrealistically low.

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December 18, 2008

Boston, MA--Ned Holstein, MD, MS, Executive Director of is a central figure in the new Newsweek article Not Your Dad's Divorce: How changes in child support laws, and a push by fathers for equal time, are transforming the way this generation of ex-spouses raise their children (12/15/08). The piece's author, reporter Susanna Schrobsdorff, to her credit, has a shared custody arrangement with her ex-husband. She explains:

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September 15, 2008

Los Angeles, CA-- "The child support system is asking very poor people  -- the fathers  -- to support other very poor people  --the mother and child. This has not worked and will not work, because the money just doesn"t exist. "By pursuing these fathers with an iron fist collection policy, we turn these fathers into fugitives. This takes away the only thing the very poor father has to offer his child: his love and guidance." Ned Holstein, Executive Director of Fathers & Families recently appeared on CNN Radio to discuss the controversy over child support enforcement agencies seizing economic stimulus checks from "deadbeat dads." He's also quoted on this in the recent Associated Press story Stimulus checks boost child support (9/9/08).

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